"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Over-Escalation

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I f-closed a chick on the first date and she hasn't reached out to me. So I sent her a text.

So I really was just a piece of meat.
That's how I feel. Besides you could have sent the first text to me other than that.

Another chick -

BeginningDJ said:
Met Alison (7) at the coffee shop. We had decent conversation good eye contact. I told her, lets take a walk and put my arm around her back. She reciprocated. Conversation shifted to wine and I told her lets get some. We walk to her car and drove to a 7-11. After we had good conversation while sipping on wine in front of a public fountain. I went in for the kiss and she smiled. She apologized for being shy. More conversation and I went in again. This time she stuck her tongue out and we made out. An hour later I excused myself and walked back to her car. She turned to me and leaned in for a kiss on the lips. Perfect!

She texted me 30 minutes later:

Hey BDJ, I had a lot of fun with you today, but I'm really feeling a friend vibe with you, and I don't want to lead you on.

Okay

Mindf*cked. I may have escalated too far.
I'm sure Alison may have other options, but to send me that text 30 minutes later was quite premature.

Your thoughts on too much escalation on the first date?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My thoughts - Full story from when I PM'd you earlier. Opened a set with a solid 8 in a bar.

A few brief words, left her smiling. A few minutes later she dashed over to me.
"Please - i need you to pretend for me, I told those guys youre my boyfriend"
Green light - Obviously I pin her to the bar and kiss close

Left her alone again.

Few minutes later she comes back again. Brief chat.

Moved over to some seats - had her sat on my lap. Go in for more kissy kissy - " oh I cant"
I laugh "yeah, sure"


"Noooo, I'm seeing someone"

"Seeing? So its not serious then" - Pulls her in again

"Nooo.I cant do that to him"
"Of course you can":D

"Well, you see - I like talking to you as a friend"

Laughs and laughs - "WE aren't friends "
Realises how ridiculous pulling that line really was and joins me laughing


"I have to meet someone now anyway- give me your number."
Does as told "TEXT ME!!!!"
"Na, Ill call"



Had Kino, all IOI's and body laguage pointed to me nailing her that night. Shame really.

I think it was ASD - You move bold and fast, it takes her a moment to catch up.
"OMG I just made out with a stranger - Gotta prove I'm not a slut, But i really wanna bone him"
(Well I like to think that - ALWAYS ASSUME THE SALE)

Perhaps maintaining momentum is crucial here?

Pretty sure its a form of ASD/Sh!t test.

Ill call this chick later In the week. I get a date? you'll know for real. Anything else is just mental masturbation.


Keep on Keepin On.

Edit: SH!T just looked in my fone for her name - I saved it as "Tidy azz, vcute smile":crackup:
 

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The patience required for these games is that of a Zen master, I swear.
 

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Its always better to risk over-escalation than not escalating at all.
 
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JoeMarron said:
Its always better to risk over-escalation than not escalating at all.
I like to see how far I can get and the girls enjoy it. They act fluttery, but when it's over they get hit with buyers remorse.

Pure filth,
Maintaining momentum is crucial in night game. I would have agreed and amplified when she brought up the friends thing. Faze her out, hit on other chicks, disappear and see if she chases. She wants attention, bargain with sex.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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