"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Out of town weekend fling

crazymedstudent

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so i've been dating these two girls lately who I find very attractive but who lack in most other areas -- a little too superficial and lack any value besides having fun and hooking up.

anyways, this past weekend one of my good girl friends had a friend from michigan coming to visit NYC for the weekend. Friday night we all went out with a whole bunch of our friends and basically just got boozed up because we had just finished exams. I had a good rapport going with her and thought she was a fun girl.

Next night we end up going out again but it ended up being an early night. Since I had driven into the city and my car was a good walk away, she offered to walk with me as we were all going back to campus anyways. On the walk to my car and drive home I felt a REAL CONNECTION with this girl -- something I haven't felt for any girl in a couple of years.

To makes things short, she ends up staying over at my place Saturday night after another night out in NYC. We had some great sex that night and in the morning. Normally, when a girl spends the night, post-sex I'll just cuddle for 10-20 minutes and then pass out but we ended up talking up a storm until 7am.

Since my friend had to drive her to the airport early in the morning (4am) we didnt do anything crazy sunday night. We ended up going for a walk and just talking about random stuff about life and whatnot.

Basically, she flew back home, we exchanged numbers and I'm sure she will be visiting NYC in the future, but you think I should just let it go?

While I'm sure if I give it enough time I'll get over this girl, I also don't want to let go of a feeling that honestly, comes fairly rarely in life if you ask me. I thought I was being AFCish but to put it in my perspective the two girls I'm dating right now are hotter than this girl.

It was one of those rare occasions where I enjoyed the conversation with her just as much if not more than the sex and honestly I'm finding it hard to let go when I've been really good the past two years about shrugging off other girls.

My question, which I'm most sure the answer is No, is should I even try to pursue when she is a planeride away?

thanks ahead for any input fellow DJs.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DonJuan11

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crazymedstudent said:
so i've been dating these two girls lately who I find very attractive but who lack in most other areas -- a little too superficial and lack any value besides having fun and hooking up.


To makes things short, she ends up staying over at my place Saturday night after another night out in NYC. We had some great sex that night and in the morning. Normally, when a girl spends the night, post-sex I'll just cuddle for 10-20 minutes and then pass out but we ended up talking up a storm until 7am.

It was one of those rare occasions where I enjoyed the conversation with her just as much if not more than the sex and honestly I'm finding it hard to let go when I've been really good the past two years about shrugging off other girls.

My question, which I'm most sure the answer is No, is should I even try to pursue when she is a planeride away?
You enjoyed talking to a hot girl more than having the sex? Nice.

If you want a long distance relationship, you got to go hard and fast. LDRs don't work, way too much of a chance she'll sleep with another med student or law student.
 
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