Out of the blue text

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

marmel75

Master Don Juan

Sep 2, 2016

Fireballs said:
Well that was short lived - banged her Thursday then she initiated Fri (but I was busy) then she initiated again Saturday so banged her again but has been radio silence since .. Nothing from me or her and my gut is telling me it's done and I've decided I'm not going to reach out.. anyway at least I got a couple more good lays out of her .. she had a banging body

Hey, look at it as you got something out of it that you didn't expect, so you exceeded your expectations...

Don't sweat it, if she re-initiates then keep banging her...

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.