It's hard to get eye contact. Not from my side but the others. I look everyone in the eyes now and nobody seems to give it back.They all look in front of themselves or at the ground. Now I was wondering could I say Hi to a girl even though we haven't made any EC?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Out of 30 people in the street 4 or 5 ECs
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Originally posted by Skel
of course you can its not against the law
In fact use it as a convo starter. Ask her why she thinks the sidewalk is so interesting?
That is funny.But think about it from their point of view, you're walking down the street and you notice someone staring at you without saying a word. That's a little strange.
Consider getting their attention and eye contact by saying "hello."
la-migra-is-after-me
Don Juan
just say hi
yeah just say hi anyway to get thier attention...the tough part is saying something to sto them for a convo......any ideas?
yeah just say hi anyway to get thier attention...the tough part is saying something to sto them for a convo......any ideas?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I wouldnt focus all my energy on street pickups, if you want to get rejected moreso than not, I wouldnt do it (thats just me personally)
Usually people are going somewhere , and they dont feel like being stopped.
If I was on my way to work, and a HB stopped me to chat, I would think "Damn YOUR HOT! But Im late for work"
Try EC in places where people are stationary, like school, class, clubs, malls
Usually people are going somewhere , and they dont feel like being stopped.
If I was on my way to work, and a HB stopped me to chat, I would think "Damn YOUR HOT! But Im late for work"
Try EC in places where people are stationary, like school, class, clubs, malls
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I'd ask them about something that caught my eye; jacket, jewelry, laptop computer (don't laugh, I've met a couple of HBs at coffee shops by asking about their computer or what they were working on). My success is because I don't make it seem like an obvious pickup.
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My experience is that you can't pick up on people who aren't receptive at some level. If she is in a rush and doesn't want to be picked up on then you are not going to pick her up unless you are a significant improvement over the guys she usually dates.
But your whole motivation is to get a girl that is better than your ave isn't it?
So stick to areas where she is relaxed and you can talk. Supermarket, mall etc.
My experience is that you can't pick up on people who aren't receptive at some level. If she is in a rush and doesn't want to be picked up on then you are not going to pick her up unless you are a significant improvement over the guys she usually dates.
But your whole motivation is to get a girl that is better than your ave isn't it?
So stick to areas where she is relaxed and you can talk. Supermarket, mall etc.