You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If Johnson didn't defend himself by grabbing the other guys arm, he would have been shot in the head.Johnson (the victim) told CNN that there was an altercation outside the club and that he exchanged words with Norris (the shooter). He said he didn't think much of it, and he began walking to his car when Norris pulled up in his Hummer, got out of the vehicle and pointed a gun at his head.
"When he put the gun to my head, all I could think about was I'm not going to let this kid take me away from my mom, especially with what she's dealing with right now," Johnson said.
He said he grabbed Norris' wrist and pulled his arm down when shots rang out. "I felt the sharpest burning sensation when the first bullet hit my leg. It actually made my leg buckle," he said.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
While I agree with how fvcked up the ruling was on this, and how fvcked up our justice system is, this was NOT a 'premeditated attempted murder.' Premeditated means planned in advance, and attempted murder means the suspect really tried to KILL someone. This was not the case. He didn't plan it days in advance, so it wasn't premeditated, and he only pulled the trigger in the middle of a physical confrontation, so it technicallly wasnt attempted murder.Maxtro said:What he did was a premeditated attempted murder.
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I like this line, however. It kind of points out that the suspect is a spoiled little rich boy, who's daddy probably DID get him out of this. He was a college boy, and there is no way in hell he bought his own hummer.when Norris pulled up in his Hummer,