Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ouch :(

saturos

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I went to a under-21 club and got rejected by pretty much every girl i went up to

I'm ugly apparently D:

Yea, this post has no point. I dunno. iSad
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TIC

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Well it could always be worse; I'm not even in the position where I can approach a girl. I'm 21 and have never really done it, so you at least have more confidence than me lol

Always a bright side haha
 

eaglez1177

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Well you must've been doin somethin wrong...any idea what that couldve been?
 

Vitanoid

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I'm a good-looking guy and I never dated a girl. You did something wrong, besides being ugly, hahaha.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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originaldj

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saturos said:
I went to a under-21 club and got rejected by pretty much every girl i went up to

I'm ugly apparently D:

Yea, this post has no point. I dunno. iSad
Just a disclaimer before you read this: I am by no mean a true DJ.

Anyways, I can almost guarantee you that the reason you were rejected wasn't because you were ugly. Generally speaking, at least where I live, it is pretty easy to pick up at a club and I have seen some pretty ugly kids do fine. In a club its ALL about body language and confidence, looks honestly dont matter a great deal. Think about it, its dark and everone is bit tipsy.

I think the most important thing is to look like you are having a good time. If you go there just going from girl to girl in a tedious manner you aren't really projecting yourself as someone who is out to enjoy himself.

I think I am average looking and even for me there were times when I was literally just talking to my bro, and random girls just pulled me in to dance or came over and hit on me. Its all about looking comfortable in your situation

I'd reccommend finding a couple people who are good at picking up in clubs and just watch them because its fairly easy.
 

Huffman

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I've never had success with strangers in the club. Well actually I did one time but I couldn't close because of logistics.

For some time, I beat myself up over it until I realized I really hated being at the clubs, and that I only went there for the girls. Wrong attitude! I now meet girls at other places, and through activities I enjoy. Works like a charm for me.
 

CaptainJ

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imo, clubs are the WORST places to pick up girls. They only go there to boost their egos, have some fun and make use of that $1000 dress they bought (which they'll probably never wear again). The only reason you should ever go to a club is to HAVE FUN, unless you are a secure dj who knows what he is doing. To pull chicks at clubs, you need to have lots of social proof, with both guys and girls and/or be really jacked. Either that or just prey on the girls that can barely stand up and are about to vom everywhere.

DOn't take it personally OP, clubs are hard places to pull. If you want to pick up girls, you'll have more luck at house parties or on the streets.
 
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