You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Absolutely!WesCottII said:
Just be confident and strong but dont show any fear or insecurity... act like you are in control... command and demand respect...mr.uk said:
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
True that. I always say to myself that any man who is with atleast a HB6 is going to have to deal with this. That is just the way it is.Ripper said:
One time, I had gone to the toilet and I left my date at the bar. When I came back, there was another guy sitting next to her talking to her. I decided not to act needy and I started talking to this other guy ( I didn't approach the bar ). She eventually came to me and said how come u took so long? I told her how I was just chatting to my mate and that she seemed busy talking to that random guy. She told me that she was waiting for me to come and tell him to go away.
Excellent answer. Just act like it's no big deal. And truthfully, it isn't. If you're dating an HB9, you're just going to have to expect this. Don't let it turn you into a jealous, controlling, obsessive turd.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It left a sparkle (lip gloss) and a spark of interest. Ooh, I'm good! We were very close and hugged up the entire night! I gave off that "look but don't touch" vibe. It worked very well. Just keep up your guard and your cool and you'll be fine. Exactly, stop caring about it, she'll know it and you'll come off pathetic. My suggestion towards you is do the same thing... Talk to women, have some fun and don't care so much about people talking to your gf. In the end, she's your gf and your going home with her so she likes you more than them already and she's showing you that.Mavrick said:
mr.uk said:
Paranoia stopping you from living life to the fullest. Pathetic. No other word for it.stuka1939 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.