Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ordering for her...

AverageFC

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This is something that not enough men do, and when I've done it you just watch the ladies literally swoon in front of you.


So you're on the date at a restaurant, and you get the menu. Eventually you figure out what you want, so ask her what she wants too. She'll tell you.

Then, when the server comes back to take your order, immediately take charge before she gets a chance to tell the server her selection:
"She'll have the pepper steak, medium rare".

Don't forget how it's supposed to be cooked. Medium is the general way for burgers, and a medium rare steak is excellent.

Then order for yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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5 .. Great Tip
 

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I work as a server at a somewhat upscale restaurant. Average entree is $16.00 (in a place where the cost of living is very low.)

This is very ture. Guys that order for their dates generally order beter meals and leave bigger tips. All signs that they know their way around the world.
 

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Good Tip, can be used in hundreds of other situtions.

Shows you are in control of the sitution, and know what your doing, also makes you look really confident
 

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Originally posted by Blinky
Good Tip, can be used in hundreds of other situtions.

Shows you are in control of the sitution, and know what your doing, also makes you look really confident
My limited vision doesn't alow me to know what other situations you are talking about.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Uh, isn't the proper etiquette is to let the lady speak first?

It seems kinda domineering in a way too. Again I ask this question, would you do that to friends to on the table? Just order for them and not giving them a choice to speak. Domineering.
 

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Originally posted by SamePendo
My limited vision doesn't alow me to know what other situations you are talking about.

;) It's alright,... I meant the whole "Taking the initiative" of any situation, people esp girls will respect u for it and see you as more of a man than someone who doens't.

In the example the guy takes assumptions.... in this case the guy did all the talking and assumed she would like it medium rare without asking.

Can be used in lots of situations,.. say u get her a drink and the barman asks if she wants ice in it, just say yes for her,.... buying her a drink without asking what she wants,.... pouring out a glass of wine without asking if she'd like it.... getting some popcorn in the cinema for her without asking, saying where the 2 of u are going and not ask her opinion pressuming she'd like too go there ... (probably not great examples, but they give the idea)..... take the intiative in stiuations and do things u think she'd like without asking just pressuming that's what they want, thats what they want too do or thats what they'd prefer..etc
 

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Originally posted by DeathDealer
Uh, isn't the proper etiquette is to let the lady speak first?

It seems kinda domineering in a way too. Again I ask this question, would you do that to friends to on the table? Just order for them and not giving them a choice to speak. Domineering.
I think he meant the lady had asked for the pepper steak ,.. and the guy just ordered for her and pressumed she'd want it medium rare
 

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People always seem confused when they respond to the original post. He said to find out (by asking her) what she wants before hand, that way when it is time to order you can just repeat what she told you, don't just guess and order something she won't like.
 

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Good tip but I would change the wording from she'll have the blah blah to...

Pepper steak med rare for the lady and I'll have the crayfish.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by gmonster2
Good tip but I would change the wording from she'll have the blah blah to...

Pepper steak med rare for the lady and I'll have the crayfish.

Pepper steak medium rare for the lady , and I'll just settle for eating her ***** out later on :p
 
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