"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Orbiters

zekko

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ha ha , my group has a some chicks which we recently decided to call 'the fan club'. Guess if it works the other way around it means we are doing something right!
Absolutely. Are you Italian (my group has-a some chicks)?

When I think about orbiters I think about guys who follow one particular girl, not a group of girls. Usually they are kind of crushing on her, or are waiting for some sexual action, or find validation by hanging around her because she's a hot chick.

It seems like a group of guys gathering a following of girls is a little different than a group of girls orbiting one guy. But it's all good.

I suppose to some extent putting together a set of plates is a bit like putting together a set of orbiters. Except with orbiters usually the relationships are platonic, at least from the girl's point of view. Although as Backbreaker noted, they are experts at dangling that carrot in front of you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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synergy1

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ha ha how did you know besides the bad typo?

I know the types you are talking about as my last girlfriends room mate did this to a tee. She had guys all dangling along, but she kept them around for attention and favors...all of which they were ready to do on a moments whim.

As for a fan club, I actually prefer this than sealing the deal with haste. Why? more options. Once you are in with a chick, its very unlikely she is going to share so if you cultivate platonic relationships, you can meet those fringe friends who remain outside the main circle and get more consequence free play. My new rule of thumb is to avoid dating girls within an immediate social circle because it creates too much drama. So for me, the fan club is off limits. Their (hotter) friends are not. I am currently in the process of doing just this, although she is more aggressively pursuing me than the other way around. Atypical I know, but she's of eastern European decent.
 
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