"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Orbiters, or 70% man, have you been one

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STR8UP said:
I have mentioned in the past that "men should date like women".

This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be an AW and have a bunch of orbiters around you, but it does mean that you should feel free to pursue the game of love free of guilt and remorse, much like women do. Sure...date a chick, even become exclusive with her if you so choose. But if a BBD comes along don't hesitate to jump ship out of obligation to her, because she wouldn't hesitate to do it to you.
Exactly.

This is pretty much exactly how I'm handling the girls in my life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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darkstarrr said:
I've realized recently that I was a plate, and orbitor - in an LTR for over a year. I should have known something was terribly wrong when I realized she never invited me to her sisters house where she lives. She used to always come to my place and never once invited me back there. In the end when she pulled the disappearing act and turned her phone off, when I called her on the house line she told a mutual friend that I called her on the house line which means I know ehre she lives..
What this means is that you were her "Mr Right Now"
Sadly, she never planned to have a future with you inspite of the calculating drivel that fell out of her mouth about you two living together.
Your only mistake was in not reading the signs properly.
Her reluctance to take you into her living space was the giveaway. I guess that she offered you a few "explanations" as to why she did not want to invite you to her sister's place.
A woman who genuinely sees you in her future will introduce you to her close family and "integrate" you and your relationship into her life. She will be enthusiastic about doing this.

On the other hand , a woman who is using you for an ego bloat, fun, amusement, sex and emotional benefits will "compartmentalize" you .

She will slice off a piece of herself and give it to you BUT continue to live the rest of her life just as she did before you came along WITHOUT including you in it.
Off course, all the while she will tell you how great you are and how this "relationship" means so much to her,and the sex is "amazing" ...blah blah..but her BEHAVIOR sends another message, and that message is that she wants a "relationship" with you in which YOU are committed to her, BUT she continues to act as if she is not really "in a couple"..

These women are suitable to be FBs only - if you have been the victim of one of these scam artists then Live and Learn.
 

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I've been there. I was confused at how she would tell people we weren't together, but have sex with me. I got the idea that I wasn't high status enough for her to tell all her friends (her best friend knew, hell she was the wing girl for her, lol). I knew that it wasn't going to last long so I took the sex that was available until she moved on. You would think most guys would be ok with this because of the sex, but it was a big blow to my ego because I sat there and let her take control and leave when the BBD came along.

Of course this was before I had developed a good sense of "game".
 

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Tazman said:
I've been there. I was confused at how she would tell people we weren't together, but have sex with me. I got the idea that I wasn't high status enough for her to tell all her friends (her best friend knew, hell she was the wing girl for her, lol). I knew that it wasn't going to last long so I took the sex that was available until she moved on. You would think most guys would be ok with this because of the sex, but it was a big blow to my ego because I sat there and let her take control and leave when the BBD came along.

Of course this was before I had developed a good sense of "game".
"Game" is not going to save you from another one of these predators.

Self respect is.
 

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jophil28 said:
Tazman said:
I've been there. I was confused at how she would tell people we weren't together, but have sex with me. I got the idea that I wasn't high status enough for her to tell all her friends (her best friend knew, hell she was the wing girl for her, lol). I knew that it wasn't going to last long so I took the sex that was available until she moved on. You would think most guys would be ok with this because of the sex, but it was a big blow to my ego because I sat there and let her take control and leave when the BBD came along.

Of course this was before I had developed a good sense of "game".
"Game" is not going to save you from another one of these predators.

Self respect is.
I tend to use the word game as I would also use "awareness", but yes self respect is always at the forefront for me now.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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