Orbiters, or 70% man, have you been one

[wjh]

I have mentioned in the past that "men should date like women".

This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be an AW and have a bunch of orbiters around you, but it does mean that you should feel free to pursue the game of love free of guilt and remorse, much like women do. Sure...date a chick, even become exclusive with her if you so choose. But if a BBD comes along don't hesitate to jump ship out of obligation to her, because she wouldn't hesitate to do it to you.

Exactly.

This is pretty much exactly how I'm handling the girls in my life.

 

[jophil28]

I've realized recently that I was a plate, and orbitor - in an LTR for over a year. I should have known something was terribly wrong when I realized she never invited me to her sisters house where she lives. She used to always come to my place and never once invited me back there. In the end when she pulled the disappearing act and turned her phone off, when I called her on the house line she told a mutual friend that I called her on the house line which means I know ehre she lives..

What this means is that you were her "Mr Right Now"
Sadly, she never planned to have a future with you inspite of the calculating drivel that fell out of her mouth about you two living together.
Your only mistake was in not reading the signs properly.
Her reluctance to take you into her living space was the giveaway. I guess that she offered you a few "explanations" as to why she did not want to invite you to her sister's place.
A woman who genuinely sees you in her future will introduce you to her close family and "integrate" you and your relationship into her life. She will be enthusiastic about doing this.

On the other hand , a woman who is using you for an ego bloat, fun, amusement, sex and emotional benefits will "compartmentalize" you .

She will slice off a piece of herself and give it to you BUT continue to live the rest of her life just as she did before you came along WITHOUT including you in it.
Off course, all the while she will tell you how great you are and how this "relationship" means so much to her,and the sex is "amazing" ...blah blah..but her BEHAVIOR sends another message, and that message is that she wants a "relationship" with you in which YOU are committed to her, BUT she continues to act as if she is not really "in a couple"..

These women are suitable to be FBs only - if you have been the victim of one of these scam artists then Live and Learn.

 

[Tazman]

I've been there. I was confused at how she would tell people we weren't together, but have sex with me. I got the idea that I wasn't high status enough for her to tell all her friends (her best friend knew, hell she was the wing girl for her, lol). I knew that it wasn't going to last long so I took the sex that was available until she moved on. You would think most guys would be ok with this because of the sex, but it was a big blow to my ego because I sat there and let her take control and leave when the BBD came along.

Of course this was before I had developed a good sense of "game".

 

[jophil28]

I've been there. I was confused at how she would tell people we weren't together, but have sex with me. I got the idea that I wasn't high status enough for her to tell all her friends (her best friend knew, hell she was the wing girl for her, lol). I knew that it wasn't going to last long so I took the sex that was available until she moved on. You would think most guys would be ok with this because of the sex, but it was a big blow to my ego because I sat there and let her take control and leave when the BBD came along.

Of course this was before I had developed a good sense of "game".

"Game" is not going to save you from another one of these predators.

Self respect is.

 

[Tazman]

I've been there. I was confused at how she would tell people we weren't together, but have sex with me. I got the idea that I wasn't high status enough for her to tell all her friends (her best friend knew, hell she was the wing girl for her, lol). I knew that it wasn't going to last long so I took the sex that was available until she moved on. You would think most guys would be ok with this because of the sex, but it was a big blow to my ego because I sat there and let her take control and leave when the BBD came along.

Of course this was before I had developed a good sense of "game".

"Game" is not going to save you from another one of these predators.

Self respect is.

I tend to use the word game as I would also use "awareness", but yes self respect is always at the forefront for me now.

 

[betterthandead]

Low interest shares all the signs whether 70% or 50%.