Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Oral Sex

baddfishh40

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Many girls I have been with love for me to give them oral but some of them seem to not want oral sex and are grossed out by it. My current girlfriend isn't bothered by giving oral but even when she is really turned on she doesn't want me giving her oral. Is there any way to get her more comfortable with the idea of me going down on her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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waldo

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Up until this week I'd managed to get every girl to give oral, and I'd given oral to a few as well. Then I hook up with a new girl this week, and she says no to giving me head. I tried to suggest that it was normal, and not disgusting, but she didn't buy it.

I'm now stuck as to whether to push for it, or just wait and see if she ever initiates it herself.

As for your Q, I'd start off with just blowing air down there, don't ever say what you're doing, get her comfortable with you doing other stuff. Then one time just do it without asking.
 

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I think its all about how sexually comfortable they are. Maybe it's your opportunity to educate and to teach her about the possibilities.
 

DJnoob

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waldo said:
Up until this week I'd managed to get every girl to give oral, and I'd given oral to a few as well. Then I hook up with a new girl this week, and she says no to giving me head. I tried to suggest that it was normal, and not disgusting, but she didn't buy it.

I'm now stuck as to whether to push for it, or just wait and see if she ever initiates it herself.

As for your Q, I'd start off with just blowing air down there, don't ever say what you're doing, get her comfortable with you doing other stuff. Then one time just do it without asking.
bro, do you straight up ask chicks "hey, give me oral"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TxCowboy

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DJnoob said:
bro, do you straight up ask chicks "hey, give me oral"
haha ... Well I guess you could say "Hey, ummmmmmm, before u spread em and we commence, y dont u open those lips and give daddy some oral" :D
 

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Say to her....Its just like fingering her but better. Its not grose and everyone does it. Say you will try it once and if she doesnt like it you wont do it again. That works well for me on the good girls
 

Bad_Lil'Pixie

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baddfishh40 said:
My current girlfriend isn't bothered by giving oral but even when she is really turned on she doesn't want me giving her oral. Is there any way to get her more comfortable with the idea of me going down on her?
There are tons of reasons and she is probably the best one to ask.

It could be facial hair. I am pretty sensitive to the touch and course facial hair is just too painful for me.

It could be freshness, maybe she would enjoy it better right after a shower.

It could be that she is really stimulated by kissing and she desires your face with hers.

As you know women respond differently to stimulation. Maybe your women is one that responds better to penetration then to oral and she want to get to the good stuff, so to say.

If you feel you are missing out on something, work it out with her and try to find resolve. If you’re not too concerned then just enjoy what she offers.

You and she create what music to dance to, there are no rules.
 

Bad_Lil'Pixie

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waldo said:
I'm now stuck as to whether to push for it, or just wait and see if she ever initiates it herself.
I feel if she doesn't offer this of herself freely or if she doesn't seem interested in giving to you, she never will be. She may do it, but it would only be as per your request and granting your wishes might not always be something she will do.

I can not count the times I have heard or read of men desiring oral from their LTR or wives and it just not happening. If it is something you truly desire and need in a relationship, I do not feel you will find it with her. If she is already showing you that giving oral is not something she finds pleasurable I do not feel it will ever change.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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milrenkb

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If a girl doesn't give or recieve oral than I don't want any part of her. Oral sex is one of the best parts about getting intimate with someone. Leave this girl. Have some standards.

As BadLittlePixie said shes probably not going to change her ways.
 
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penkitten said:
some chicks just dont like it and thats ok.
... No... It's not.
 
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