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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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Oral Sex

baddfishh40

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Many girls I have been with love for me to give them oral but some of them seem to not want oral sex and are grossed out by it. My current girlfriend isn't bothered by giving oral but even when she is really turned on she doesn't want me giving her oral. Is there any way to get her more comfortable with the idea of me going down on her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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waldo

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Up until this week I'd managed to get every girl to give oral, and I'd given oral to a few as well. Then I hook up with a new girl this week, and she says no to giving me head. I tried to suggest that it was normal, and not disgusting, but she didn't buy it.

I'm now stuck as to whether to push for it, or just wait and see if she ever initiates it herself.

As for your Q, I'd start off with just blowing air down there, don't ever say what you're doing, get her comfortable with you doing other stuff. Then one time just do it without asking.
 

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I think its all about how sexually comfortable they are. Maybe it's your opportunity to educate and to teach her about the possibilities.
 

DJnoob

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waldo said:
Up until this week I'd managed to get every girl to give oral, and I'd given oral to a few as well. Then I hook up with a new girl this week, and she says no to giving me head. I tried to suggest that it was normal, and not disgusting, but she didn't buy it.

I'm now stuck as to whether to push for it, or just wait and see if she ever initiates it herself.

As for your Q, I'd start off with just blowing air down there, don't ever say what you're doing, get her comfortable with you doing other stuff. Then one time just do it without asking.
bro, do you straight up ask chicks "hey, give me oral"
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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TxCowboy

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DJnoob said:
bro, do you straight up ask chicks "hey, give me oral"
haha ... Well I guess you could say "Hey, ummmmmmm, before u spread em and we commence, y dont u open those lips and give daddy some oral" :D
 

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Say to her....Its just like fingering her but better. Its not grose and everyone does it. Say you will try it once and if she doesnt like it you wont do it again. That works well for me on the good girls
 

Bad_Lil'Pixie

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baddfishh40 said:
My current girlfriend isn't bothered by giving oral but even when she is really turned on she doesn't want me giving her oral. Is there any way to get her more comfortable with the idea of me going down on her?
There are tons of reasons and she is probably the best one to ask.

It could be facial hair. I am pretty sensitive to the touch and course facial hair is just too painful for me.

It could be freshness, maybe she would enjoy it better right after a shower.

It could be that she is really stimulated by kissing and she desires your face with hers.

As you know women respond differently to stimulation. Maybe your women is one that responds better to penetration then to oral and she want to get to the good stuff, so to say.

If you feel you are missing out on something, work it out with her and try to find resolve. If you’re not too concerned then just enjoy what she offers.

You and she create what music to dance to, there are no rules.
 

Bad_Lil'Pixie

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waldo said:
I'm now stuck as to whether to push for it, or just wait and see if she ever initiates it herself.
I feel if she doesn't offer this of herself freely or if she doesn't seem interested in giving to you, she never will be. She may do it, but it would only be as per your request and granting your wishes might not always be something she will do.

I can not count the times I have heard or read of men desiring oral from their LTR or wives and it just not happening. If it is something you truly desire and need in a relationship, I do not feel you will find it with her. If she is already showing you that giving oral is not something she finds pleasurable I do not feel it will ever change.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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milrenkb

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If a girl doesn't give or recieve oral than I don't want any part of her. Oral sex is one of the best parts about getting intimate with someone. Leave this girl. Have some standards.

As BadLittlePixie said shes probably not going to change her ways.
 
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penkitten said:
some chicks just dont like it and thats ok.
... No... It's not.
 
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