"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Opposites attract: Most hot brunettes I know are going for blonde or redhead guys.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Make a white guy moderately tall, with dark hair and possibly blue eyes and he has an edge on everyone else.
While its funny that for guys its the other way around, guys chase blondies most of the time at least in my experience in any possible corner of Europe.
While I've never seen a guy change his hair color I see plenty of girls doing it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I get a lot more IOIs and at times even approaches from brunettes, find them to be a lot more receptive on average. With brunettes, I feel like I can get higher quality for the same amount of work I would put into getting with a blonde. The amount of work I put in chasing a blonde 6, I could get a brunette 8.
Majority of my success has come from tanned brunettes with darker features, along the lines of a Gina Carano type, though every now and then I might get lucky with a blonde.