Opposing View: different tactics BEING FAST vs BEING COOL

[mackdaddy27]

Now,

There are a class of people who believe that


a) you should act to get to the first date as soon as possible. Like you met a girl and set up a day 2 that same night or next night Instant date. The reasoning being that your attraction is still fresh in her mind and easier to score. The object is to be very fast and quick ..

b) At the other end of the spectrum that some people believe that you should get the number and make yourself appear more busy, if you call too soon, you'll be considered desperate. If you wait a few days maybe a week, you'll raise much more chances that she'll actually pick up the phone and talk to you and set up a day 2.


What do you think is the best way ?

 

[King Turi]

Pick up girl and bang her same night, see what happens from there.

If you're after a serious relationship, I think giving it a few days would be the best bet, so you can build the relationship up or what not.

Gotta decide whether you're just after a root or a relationship though.

'Cuz getting a root is easier than getting in a relationship.

 

[Captain]

A combination of both is best. If you can go on an instant date, do it. If not, call her after a couple of days.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Just like most things in life, one or the other approach is not superior. Adapt your strategies according to the situation and opportunities that you have.

In certain situations, closing that same night is preferred over following up. Club pickup is one of these cases where if there's a spark, go for it. Assuming she even remembers meeting you, the spark can disappear as fast as it appeared. Without the alcohol, dim lighting, music, etc., things may look and feel different, and there goes your close.