"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Opposing View: different tactics BEING FAST vs BEING COOL

mackdaddy27

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Now,

There are a class of people who believe that


a) you should act to get to the first date as soon as possible. Like you met a girl and set up a day 2 that same night or next night Instant date. The reasoning being that your attraction is still fresh in her mind and easier to score. The object is to be very fast and quick ..

b) At the other end of the spectrum that some people believe that you should get the number and make yourself appear more busy, if you call too soon, you'll be considered desperate. If you wait a few days maybe a week, you'll raise much more chances that she'll actually pick up the phone and talk to you and set up a day 2.


What do you think is the best way ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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King Turi

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Pick up girl and bang her same night, see what happens from there.

If you're after a serious relationship, I think giving it a few days would be the best bet, so you can build the relationship up or what not.

Gotta decide whether you're just after a root or a relationship though.

'Cuz getting a root is easier than getting in a relationship.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Just like most things in life, one or the other approach is not superior. Adapt your strategies according to the situation and opportunities that you have.

In certain situations, closing that same night is preferred over following up. Club pickup is one of these cases where if there's a spark, go for it. Assuming she even remembers meeting you, the spark can disappear as fast as it appeared. Without the alcohol, dim lighting, music, etc., things may look and feel different, and there goes your close.
 
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