"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pyros

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Hi.

I was training at the gym today. I was feeling a bit down (because of my ex and stuff) and there I saw these two girls, quite younger than me. Anyway, as many other times I wanted to approach them, but I understand that when Im feeling down, it is impossible to approach a ****. I must be feeling good with myself first.
They looked at me, then came next to me. The cutest asked me something about the weights. After some minutes they went to another machine. The cute one looked at me again and smiled. After some minutes I went to get some water, I just walked next to this girl, looked at her and she smiled again, with a bigger smile, so I smiled back but felt blocked, so I kept walking and did not stop.


After this I felt so bad. I could have just got her number and stuff as I've done some other times. But all this ex thing is making me feel pretty bad for too long ( broke up 10 months ago but we kept talking, tried to fix it, I hurted her, she hurted me...etc) and I miss opportunities.

Then, last night I was in a club, and when I was about to leave, I got my jacket from the wardrove, there was just me and some girls getting their jackets and this super cute girl asked me: 'excuse me, how much is it to leave your jacket?' I replied, smiled, and left. 10 secs later I thought: '****!! why I did not talk to this girl?!'

****ING BAD DAY.:box: :box: :box: it multiplies your approach anxiety 100 times.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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coochieman

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Happened to me last week.

Even tried approaching this chick i met again some few days after we had series of eye contact and smile exchanges. Didn't turn out to be a good idea. Should have stuck the iron while it was still hot.

No damage done anyways, bad and good days come. Don't beat yourself over it, Now you know better.
 

Le killeur

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Ahh well man, f@ck it, plenty more fish in the sea, there will be many more times to approach. If you feel that bad then its no worries if you mess it up with girls, who cares?
 

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The more you look back it, the more you will regret it. It's in the past now so move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zerro

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It happens. I was leaving a tavern once and didn't realize until I was already a mile down the road that the hostess was hitting on me as she was getting the door and giving me a rather un-subtle "**** me" look. I tried going back a week later and she was there but never got a chance to speak with her and didn't want to just keep lingering as I was in there for lunch. It even looked like she was moving to intercept me as I was leaving only to get diverted by one of the other girls at the last minute. Haven't been back there in months so oh well.
 

Serg897

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I've gotten several numbers the past week or so, but there is an equal amount that I missed just because I hesitated, or didnt take advantage, etc.

It happens. You wont be perfect everytime. It is the way of the universe.
 
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