"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pyros

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Hi.

I was training at the gym today. I was feeling a bit down (because of my ex and stuff) and there I saw these two girls, quite younger than me. Anyway, as many other times I wanted to approach them, but I understand that when Im feeling down, it is impossible to approach a ****. I must be feeling good with myself first.
They looked at me, then came next to me. The cutest asked me something about the weights. After some minutes they went to another machine. The cute one looked at me again and smiled. After some minutes I went to get some water, I just walked next to this girl, looked at her and she smiled again, with a bigger smile, so I smiled back but felt blocked, so I kept walking and did not stop.


After this I felt so bad. I could have just got her number and stuff as I've done some other times. But all this ex thing is making me feel pretty bad for too long ( broke up 10 months ago but we kept talking, tried to fix it, I hurted her, she hurted me...etc) and I miss opportunities.

Then, last night I was in a club, and when I was about to leave, I got my jacket from the wardrove, there was just me and some girls getting their jackets and this super cute girl asked me: 'excuse me, how much is it to leave your jacket?' I replied, smiled, and left. 10 secs later I thought: '****!! why I did not talk to this girl?!'

****ING BAD DAY.:box: :box: :box: it multiplies your approach anxiety 100 times.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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coochieman

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Happened to me last week.

Even tried approaching this chick i met again some few days after we had series of eye contact and smile exchanges. Didn't turn out to be a good idea. Should have stuck the iron while it was still hot.

No damage done anyways, bad and good days come. Don't beat yourself over it, Now you know better.
 

Le killeur

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Ahh well man, f@ck it, plenty more fish in the sea, there will be many more times to approach. If you feel that bad then its no worries if you mess it up with girls, who cares?
 

Nik TPT

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The more you look back it, the more you will regret it. It's in the past now so move on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zerro

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It happens. I was leaving a tavern once and didn't realize until I was already a mile down the road that the hostess was hitting on me as she was getting the door and giving me a rather un-subtle "**** me" look. I tried going back a week later and she was there but never got a chance to speak with her and didn't want to just keep lingering as I was in there for lunch. It even looked like she was moving to intercept me as I was leaving only to get diverted by one of the other girls at the last minute. Haven't been back there in months so oh well.
 

Serg897

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I've gotten several numbers the past week or so, but there is an equal amount that I missed just because I hesitated, or didnt take advantage, etc.

It happens. You wont be perfect everytime. It is the way of the universe.
 
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