Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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blacksham

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Okay, synopsis:
I'm planning on asking out a girl whom I go to high school with. She is very intelligent (I believe she has a 4.3 or above as a Sophmore, at a college prep school, which is actually supposedly the 59th best HS in the country, but I digress) She is also very musically talented, last summer she spent four weeks in Germany where she was given a scholarship to go to a music college for Piano. On top of that, she is very nice, and exceedingly beautiful.
She has, I think, for a fairly long while been interested in me. That by no means indicates that I am quite as amazing, more that there is limited selection in our school and she and I are a good match as it seems.

Finally, she and I have an ongoing joke about the whole Mac vs PC debacle. I personally am very highly pro PC's, I dislike many of Apple's moves both in hardware and software development. She however, has a father who works for apple, and thus is very Pro-mac.

So here's what I want the opinion on. I wanted to do something kind of clever to ask her out, something memorable and sweet, as she hasn't dated anyone before to the best of my knowledge. My plan was to create a brief stop motion animated film, which involved an Apple (symbolizing that I have transcended my dislike for Jobs in my feelings for her) rotating around to reveal a hole in the shape of a heart. In this whole would be a note, which would unfold, carrying a note which I would obviously write my (most likely sappy) message upon.

Do you think that is a cute idea? I know it'll be a fair amount of work, but I love to do videographic stuff and my friend has offered to help me. Thanks in advance!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hughman

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Eh?

Good god man, she may appear intelligent, but if you keep pulling this geeky crap on her, you're going blow it. Trust me, I've been there, done that, got the sob story.

Just tell her you're going into town/the mall/wherever people in your town hang out, and tell her she can come along. Have a coffee, make her help find some good clothes, ****e like that. Bounce off whilst there's still a good vibe and good convo going, don't leave until you are both bored stiff.
 
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