"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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dk1990S111

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Last night I texted one girl I met a few months ago that nothing ever happened with. I tried inviting her out before and never heard back. But I was headed to the bar that I met her at and said to myself, fvck it doesnt hurt and if she doesnt respond I delete her number. So I invite her to come join me and a few of my friends but she replies that she doesnt live in that area anymore (has actually moved close to where I live) and is actually in Napa for work.

11 PM I tell her that she lives close to me now and ask when she will be back in town. She responds today at 6:30 AM that she will be back Sunday afternoon. I tell her we should meet up at a bar that is close to where she lives now.

She just responded that she is in Vegas for work from Tuesday through Thursday and is home Thursday night. But then "I have to be honest, I have a bf. Not sure if you still want to meet up since obviously I wouldnt be looking for anything beyond friendship"

Two points I am keeping in mind: When I first met her she was telling me how her bf cheated and she was moving on. I wouldnt doubt that she stayed with the guy. If thats the case it might just take a little convincing to get her back to my place. She was very dtf when I met her.

The other thing is that it would just be good social proof to go out with a girl this hot. This other girl I was interested in a while back works at the bar I invited this girl out too so it might even just be good to spark some curiosity in her.

So what is the best response? "Im just looking for friends too so no worries." Then see where things go that night?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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skinnyguy

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dk1990S111 said:
She just responded that she is in Vegas for work from Tuesday through Thursday and is home Thursday night.
Is she stripper?


dk1990S111 said:
But then "I have to be honest, I have a bf. Not sure if you still want to meet up since obviously I wouldnt be looking for anything beyond friendship"
You should have nexted her a long time ago my friend
 

dk1990S111

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havent talked to her since march before last night. she was nexted but I do believe its best to not delete the number on the first strike.

Basically I just want to know what is the best way to respond about the just being friends thing? Agree and escalate?
 

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" OK no problem, since we are just meeting as friends we can go dutch."

Don't buy her any drinks, see how the nights goes. If she resists kino never speak to her again. Nothing to lose.
 

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dk1990S111 said:
The other thing is that it would just be good social proof to go out with a girl this hot.
There is no social proof in wasting your evening chasing a girl who has been very evasive.

You'd be better off prospecting new women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Make sure you don't memorize her number.
 

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El Payaso said:
There is no social proof in wasting your evening chasing a girl who has been very evasive.

You'd be better off prospecting new women.
Ya, interest is important in addition to looks. If you're out with her and she's ignoring you you'll be dying to go home. You're wasting your time on this slvt
 

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dk1990S111 said:
She won't be ignoring me I can tell you that lmao
Apparently she has been ignoring you. An interested girl, even semi-interested, isn't going to mention having a boyfriend. Why even waste time on a girl that has a bf when you could be out talking to other girls?
 
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