"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dk1990S111

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Last night I texted one girl I met a few months ago that nothing ever happened with. I tried inviting her out before and never heard back. But I was headed to the bar that I met her at and said to myself, fvck it doesnt hurt and if she doesnt respond I delete her number. So I invite her to come join me and a few of my friends but she replies that she doesnt live in that area anymore (has actually moved close to where I live) and is actually in Napa for work.

11 PM I tell her that she lives close to me now and ask when she will be back in town. She responds today at 6:30 AM that she will be back Sunday afternoon. I tell her we should meet up at a bar that is close to where she lives now.

She just responded that she is in Vegas for work from Tuesday through Thursday and is home Thursday night. But then "I have to be honest, I have a bf. Not sure if you still want to meet up since obviously I wouldnt be looking for anything beyond friendship"

Two points I am keeping in mind: When I first met her she was telling me how her bf cheated and she was moving on. I wouldnt doubt that she stayed with the guy. If thats the case it might just take a little convincing to get her back to my place. She was very dtf when I met her.

The other thing is that it would just be good social proof to go out with a girl this hot. This other girl I was interested in a while back works at the bar I invited this girl out too so it might even just be good to spark some curiosity in her.

So what is the best response? "Im just looking for friends too so no worries." Then see where things go that night?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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skinnyguy

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dk1990S111 said:
She just responded that she is in Vegas for work from Tuesday through Thursday and is home Thursday night.
Is she stripper?


dk1990S111 said:
But then "I have to be honest, I have a bf. Not sure if you still want to meet up since obviously I wouldnt be looking for anything beyond friendship"
You should have nexted her a long time ago my friend
 

dk1990S111

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havent talked to her since march before last night. she was nexted but I do believe its best to not delete the number on the first strike.

Basically I just want to know what is the best way to respond about the just being friends thing? Agree and escalate?
 

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" OK no problem, since we are just meeting as friends we can go dutch."

Don't buy her any drinks, see how the nights goes. If she resists kino never speak to her again. Nothing to lose.
 

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dk1990S111 said:
The other thing is that it would just be good social proof to go out with a girl this hot.
There is no social proof in wasting your evening chasing a girl who has been very evasive.

You'd be better off prospecting new women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Make sure you don't memorize her number.
 

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El Payaso said:
There is no social proof in wasting your evening chasing a girl who has been very evasive.

You'd be better off prospecting new women.
Ya, interest is important in addition to looks. If you're out with her and she's ignoring you you'll be dying to go home. You're wasting your time on this slvt
 

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dk1990S111 said:
She won't be ignoring me I can tell you that lmao
Apparently she has been ignoring you. An interested girl, even semi-interested, isn't going to mention having a boyfriend. Why even waste time on a girl that has a bf when you could be out talking to other girls?
 
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