"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'd say the one of you on your own, handsome chap though you look a bit p*ssed off!
 

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I'd say the one of you on your own, handsome chap though you look a bit p*ssed off!

That would be a good pic...chicks will think they "can fix him"...thats how women are
 

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Go with the 2nd, https://imgur.com/1eb6UwZ

Just crop the pic enough that it doesn't show the girl's face, but also leave in the guy on the side of you. The 2nd pic shows that you're fun, confident, having a great time with a social life.
I'm not seeing the fun part...he looks like he is either high or drunk or bored...
 

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second
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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These are my two best pics according to photofeeler.

Which would be best as a main pic?
https://imgur.com/G2F746d
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https://imgur.com/1eb6UwZ
You have a nice looking face, but def not the second pic. Comes of as player and can deter lots of women. Even if you are a player don't post pics to show it. Maybe crop out the girl you don't want girls in your main pic.

The first pic you look angry, also a deterrent. Someone mentioned that this will attract women because women like to fix men or whatever but I can say no, nope, this will not attract a lot of women.

You are cute so maybe a pic where you don't look angry, not saying you have to do a big smile but a grin or at least not a scowl.
 

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First pic is a weak one that will eliminate you from many women.

The second shows a good vibe, but the girl is unattractive, which lowers your perceived value. Crop her out.

Don’t worry about the player vibe; it weeds out the insecure girls.
 

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First pic is a weak one that will eliminate you from many women.

The second shows a good vibe, but the girl is unattractive, which lowers your perceived value. Crop her out.

Don’t worry about the player vibe; it weeds out the insecure girls.
dont crop, shes well looking
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Second is by far the best one. The first reaks try-hard and loner.
 

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You would look much better in the first pic if you had a smirk on your face, with a clean haircut and a grimmer beard.
 

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Cala a boca filho da puta
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You have a nice looking face, but def not the second pic. Comes of as player and can deter lots of women. Even if you are a player don't post pics to show it. Maybe crop out the girl you don't want girls in your main pic.

The first pic you look angry, also a deterrent. Someone mentioned that this will attract women because women like to fix men or whatever but I can say no, nope, this will not attract a lot of women.

You are cute so maybe a pic where you don't look angry, not saying you have to do a big smile but a grin or at least not a scowl.
No offense but you must be a girl because this is exactly woman advice from a woman.

I say ignore this, and go with the first pic. Toss the second one in for social proof. Girls like when you’re around other girls even though they won’t admit it.
 

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No offense but you must be a girl because this is exactly woman advice from a woman.

I say ignore this, and go with the first pic. Toss the second one in for social proof. Girls like when you’re around other girls even though they won’t admit it.
This is an instance were female advice trumps male rationale
 
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No offense but you must be a girl because this is exactly woman advice from a woman.

I say ignore this, and go with the first pic. Toss the second one in for social proof. Girls like when you’re around other girls even though they won’t admit it.
Yes I am a girl, so what would I know, about what other girls may like or not like in a man's OLD profile pic.

If you saw a women's OLD pic of her doing a duck face with a guy by her side what's the first thing that comes to your mind? That pic with the facial expression is the male version of that.

But I guess it depends on what kind of girls he wants. If he wants party girls then that pic is totally fine. If he wants girls who are not party girls then I would suggest another type of pic but whatever, he's a young good looking guy so I'm sure he will have no problems getting girls.
 

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This is an instance were female advice trumps male rationale
No it doesn't because it is not rationale, it's personal experience. If I toss in a picture of me with another girl (group picture) I always get more matches, with better outcomes versus solo pictures. However, both work. But one works better than the other.

Yes I am a girl, so what would I know, about what other girls may like or not like in a man's OLD profile pic.

If you saw a women's OLD pic of her doing a duck face with a guy by her side what's the first thing that comes to your mind? That pic with the facial expression is the male version of that.

But I guess it depends on what kind of girls he wants. If he wants party girls then that pic is totally fine. If he wants girls who are not party girls then I would suggest another type of pic but whatever, he's a young good looking guy so I'm sure he will have no problems getting girls.

He's on tinder most likely, he isn't looking for a princess to save her from her dragon, hes looking to get his di1ck wet and call it a day. I'm sure he wont have trouble either, he will attract both types of girls. The nice girls will be curious and the party girls already know the deal.
 

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Second picture, definitely.

And this is just me, but I wouldn't crop the girl out at all. Nor the friend. Whether true or not, the photo conveys to me a social setting in which this girl may have had a thing for you, wanted badly to be in a picture with you, but you don't seem to pay much mind or give two sh*ts about it.
Actually, that is exactly what happened haha, she wanted me, but she was a bit taller than me so that turned me off.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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