"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
OPINIONS: Can a Man (Married) and a Woman
- Thread starter Miss
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Evangenlion
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mentioning friendship is saying he doesn't want to get involved.
mentioning lust is saying he wants to bed u.
depends really. do u also want to bed him? or just be friends?
anyway, i see bad bad bad coming
MacAvoy
Banned
While I am not saying that they universally opposed to each other, at one point, you will have to make the decision of either one or the other.
From the Man's point of view, it goes like this. I already have friends. So losing one is not that big of a deal.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
I broke it off before it turned into a sex thing.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Realistically, what degree of 'freindship' do you think you could ultimately have? In otherwords, honestly visualize what sort of frinedship you'd think would be ideal and ask yourself if you really think it's possible. In this instance I'd say definitely not. The guy want's to fvck you and not his wife, that sexual anxiety will always persist until one of you relents by either giving in to a made up 'accident' or you or he gives up in futility. Don't kid yourself, and don't play 'friends', you wont be in the end.
Follow this 'friendship' to it's logical conclusion, what would you do as 'friends'? Would you do the same things you do with your same sex friends, would he be doing the same things as well for his? Even in the best of circumstance intergender frienships are a farce until intimacy is resolved. Imagine you were the woman he's married to, would you think if went off to a movie or talked for any length of time with his 'woman friend' in favor of spending time with you that you could accept it as platonic? Women know this, and they're all too happy to entertain guy's stupid efforts to get into their pants when it serves their need for attention. That is until they're the ones in the LTR, then all that pretense they found so useful while single flys out the window, because she's used the same 'friendship' angle to keep more than a few fish on the stringer herself.
You can have great friendships when there is mutual attraction...but there is always sexual energy there and it will eventually lead to sex.
If one person is attracted and the other isn't the one who is attracted will always want more and be hurt when it never leads to more. No friendship can develop here that is a genuine friendship.
If neither person is attracted to each other then you can have a good platonic friendship.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
You know in the books I read this is called sexual harassment. Companies spend millions to avoid just this sort of thing. If it's becoming difficult you may need to address it with your employer, unless of course he is your employer. How old is this guy (and you)?
Zonder
Don Juan
Try to show him you're indifferent to him. Otherwise he'll keep trying and at a time when you're down (just out of relationship, or another bad personal chrisis, or you've had a little too much to drink) he'll take advantage of your "friendship" to do what he wants. I agree that he's using the "friend" thing just to be around you until the time when you're in a suggestive mood. I've seen it happen all around me.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Okay, cool, but come on man there are enough frivolous lawsuits out there without us advising these women to do this. If you read her post closely she's actually interested in this fellow and wants to fvck him.
You threw me for a loop with this post.
Sure somebody hasn't hijacked your acount.
Sayno'