"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's all about a girl. I'm pretty sure she likes me, she holds eye contact, she laugh my jokes... ( lol i know some of them are pretty funny )... I'm NOT chasing her... she sometimes ask me to go out with her friends sometimes I accept sometimes not...

I was going to ask that girl out for a certain day of the weekend but she apologized because that day was already scheduled for her... because she had the wedding of one of her best friends... my question is should I wait a bit before asking for an other time...

I'm really interested into that girl... but I don't have any problem into controlling myself... I'm a very patient person... waiting for the "ideal" opportunity...

any suggestions ??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yep you have dilly dallied around to much, you should made a move sooner. and in future when a girl says she has plans that day, suggest another day, if she says no to that one aswell then thats your que to move on. it saves you the time your waiting now to ask her out again.
 

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agree whole heartedly with the replies. Kid, I must ask you, what is your definintion of a don juan? I am not trying to be an ******* or anything, but we must grab the concept and really understand the whole concept of who we are, instead of trying to always get some quick fix. It goes without saying, if you have a tire and its flat you and put air in it today, and tomorrow its flat again, why keep putting air in the tire everyday when you can just get another tire and save yourself the headaches. You got me.
 

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lol...

Just some precisions...
I'm not as close as you think to that girl...

I'm not necessarily into her circle of friends and she is
not into MY circle of friends... sometimes she asks me
to do something with her or I ask her ...

I'm NOT chasing her... I'm testing her.... before making
any move...

And about when I asked her out for the weeekend she
said " Oh I'm so sorry! I apologize.... One of the friends
of when I was young Is getting maried that weeked..."

Sometimes by adding more precisions it helps... :p
thank u for the replies :)
 

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2 weeks

I suggest you wait two weeks then ask her out. Something not too complicated like playing billards, or a quick lunch (not the ultra fancy gizmo). If she refuses or doesn't offer an alternative, pass on and forget her.

If she offers an alternative, go along if it is acceptable. If she offers the big trap (see the post about the funny experiment in NYC), back out.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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