"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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amazingswayze

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i'm starting to think that "what's up" is a bad opener. when i see girls i know it generally gets no response other than a smile. like, wtf, i asked you a question. i already know you guys are gonna say that 'hi' is the best opener but my first instinct is to say what's up when i see a girl i know. is this bad? im starting to feel like its ineffective. i need to make saying, 'hi' a habit. this is no joke, lol.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anima

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What's up is essentially the same as hi. It's just your style whereas I say hey. I also agree with Espi. You shouldn't really plan what you're going to say or do. If what's up is natural for you, then go for it, but try not to set up your openers.
 

SmooveMooves

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'Hi.' Usually works for me. I too don't find canned openers all that useful.
 

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NSX-R

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Depends on the situation.
I usually come up with something depending on the place.
Saying a simple hi or hey isn't bad but the thing is what you're saying afterwards. That's where things matter.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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