"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Openers

vazeh

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does anyone have any suggestions of openers when approaching a set?

The Game mentions a few like:
"did you see the fight outside"

does anyone have any they've heard of or come up with that work?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Would you date a guy who lives in a tent"
- go into a DHV story about the opener


"Is it ok to breakup with someone by text message (or you can use e-mail)"
- go into a DHV story about opener

"Would you ever date a guy in a wheel chair"
- go into a DHV about opener

"Can you dance?...(Start push/pull and quailifying right off the start while keeping a playful frame)...I need a gf to support while I fufill my dreams."
- Go into wateva you want maybe you need her to be a dancer in your music video or some roleplaying crap

Damn I'm getting lazy don't want to say my default openers but also check out the following openers...

Horse girl opener (I love shocker openers now and then following it up with an opinion opener)
Tatoo opener
Who lies more opener
 

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hmm. sometimes when i approach groups i can be an ashole but nowadays i will ask a question that can relate to all of them like if they are working i can say what are you doing talking you guys need to be working harder they call that pacing the situation all you need to be is observant and maybe be a little witty and you can comment about anything

P.S. don't ask me why i don't take my own advice
 
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