"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Slippery Sam

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i just switched to a school with girls in it, from an all guys school. my days are pretty good, ive already gone out with some cool girls and am friends with the popular guys but when i see some girl that i've talked to before or just want to talk to i can never think of something cool to say. sometimes ill just walk up and say wats up and girls will look at me, smile and say the same but then i just cant think of anything and its gets real awkward. also most girls are just waiting for someone to talk to them and its pretty obvious so i feel even worse when they're making obvious iois in my direction and i cant deliver. what should i do? i've already written some conversation topics on an index card and those work but once ive used them up, theres nothing new for me to say. if a girl adds to the conversation im good at making jokes and being ****y/funny but again, i cant think of the next thing to say.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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James18

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You're on the right track- talk to girls showing IOI/eye contact and your life will be a lot easier. Situational openers are really best, a lot of canned ones are very transparent. For convo- stop trying to impress and let the girl talk. Pick up something she says and expand on it with open ended questions. Less is more on your end.
 

Analyzeit

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Hey i'm ________ what's your name?? (shake hands if you want to = Kino Begins!) I mean you can only use it on people you haven't met but it works

Its ****y because you just came up told her your name and asked hers directly and funny because it's just so original which many people say is hard to be, trust me on this one, i mean it sounds bad and boring, but it's simple, good and has almost no risk.

I mean its not like the whole conversation is like that after this you start flirting simple.

Please for the love of god and all his many people do not accuse her of staring at your ass if she's behind her, a lot of girls i know have a lot more dignity then that and will just walk on by, or say something not nice, especially if she with her *****y mates

You can try some of the ones on the website juice said but hey what's more simpler then what i said? and you get turned down especially hard if you use one of those ones

But you didn't ask that question really, I'm just trying to stop you from what juice is saying to do.

I get exactly the same feeling you do and i just run out of things to say especially when you know them a little.

One way to help this is to make sure your doing something, walking somewhere, reading a book, and just talk about what's happening and hope something good happens.

I mack on chicks on a bus and it's perfect, where always driving past stuff or someone's doing something weird, make the most of the situation.
 

Slippery Sam

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thanks guys ill check out that site, and also now im paying attention to funny things that happen to me so ill have a story later for it. for instance, i tried yoga the other day to help my back out and this has lead to great conversations because many girls can relate to this kind of ****.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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