Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So i was just diagnosed by a good female friend of mine that i'm handsome and not bad looking but what i'm missing is that i'm not "oozing sexuality."

The worst thing is that she might be right. I mean i don't have much problem going out with women but unfortunately conveying to them that i "want" them is my biggest challenge.

Advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What she is telling you is that you are an average looking person who is neither hot nor cold, beautiful or ugly, and that she doesn't think you live up to your potential as a man.

By the way, she might have been interested in you once. But not now apparently...
 

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...yeah, but then she brings up her boyfriend who supposely is "oozing sexuality" and trust me she can't be talking about looks there.
 

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"she doesn't think you live up to your potential as a man."

...a what?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You answer as if assumig that i want to know whether she's attracted to me. I already know she isn't. I just wanted to know what women might imply (besides stated above) when they say it (and better yet how to resolve it).
 

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Taking her words at face value, it IS possible to act in ways that just are not sexual at all. Maybe you need to slow down some. Take longer, slower strides. Avoid short, jerky movements. How about your voice? You want a deep, rumbling bass, not a high-pitched, squeaky tenor. How do you dress? Baggy clothes that cover stuff up, or something that fits well and shows off your body (assuming you have a decent body to show). How do you look at things? Gaze at things, don't scan. Take your time looking at things that are beautiful (including women). Appreciate them with your eyes. Touch things. Feel things with your hands (including them - but not in a gropey, going-to-jail kinda way).
 

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She's being nothing more than nice to you. What she says and what she actually thinks might be two diffrent things, though.

For example there might have been a time she thought you were attractive, but turned her off and she's been that way ever since or maybe she has never found you attractive.

Either way she is giving you positive feedback. I always thought there was a contradiction when a girl tells you these things, but nevertheless she is simply stating that you arn't man enough for her.

You can correct this by acting like a man.
 

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"Take longer, slower strides. Avoid short, jerky movements."

juanstepatatime: man, you might be onto something with this. I drink too much f uckin redbull.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by gruby
"Take longer, slower strides. Avoid short, jerky movements."

juanstepatatime: man, you might be onto something with this. I drink too much f uckin redbull.
That stuff is the sh!t, though.
 

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Originally posted by gruby
"Take longer, slower strides. Avoid short, jerky movements."

juanstepatatime: man, you might be onto something with this. I drink too much f uckin redbull.
LOL

Word.(<==thats right, I went there) Everything looks good in slow motion.
 

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Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Ricky Martin, watch how these guys carry themselves. Sexuality comes by the way you move, the way you carry yourself, the vibes you send off, the way you beleive in yourself. Once you are truly comfortable with yourself, and with yourself around beautiful woman, you will start to feel the sexuality ooze out of you. Just gotta get out in that game and learn the basics first!
 
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