So as of Sunday me and my gf brokeup. Im lookin into getting her back. Looked into some get ur ex back stuff. Everything i read mentions Facebook and using it to make her jealous blah blah blah. Problem is, i deleted her as a friend. How do i go about becoming her friend again on fb since im trying to do no contact?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Oops...what the hell did i do?!?!?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Whoa, whoa, hold up there... WAIT A MINUTE!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KVZ1fuRFOk&t=1m47s
Who exactly decided to break up here? Was it you or her? And if it was you, then tell us why...
Coz if it was you, then I'm sure you had a pretty good reason for it, and it would be foolish to give up on your decision so soon because you're beginning to miss her...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KVZ1fuRFOk&t=1m47s
Who exactly decided to break up here? Was it you or her? And if it was you, then tell us why...
Coz if it was you, then I'm sure you had a pretty good reason for it, and it would be foolish to give up on your decision so soon because you're beginning to miss her...
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
If she broke up with you, then you should be going no contact.
No contact doesn't only mean don't talk to her for a while - no contact means that YOU need to worry about yourself. Talk to other girls, try to pick some up, go on random dates. The point is to get yourself "unhooked" from her, so that you aren't so attached.
If she comes crawling back at some point, then it's up to you to decide - but then YOU have the decision power. In the meantime, enjoy yourself and do other things so you don't think about it.
No contact doesn't only mean don't talk to her for a while - no contact means that YOU need to worry about yourself. Talk to other girls, try to pick some up, go on random dates. The point is to get yourself "unhooked" from her, so that you aren't so attached.
If she comes crawling back at some point, then it's up to you to decide - but then YOU have the decision power. In the meantime, enjoy yourself and do other things so you don't think about it.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Well first. This is not easy.OhUMeanME said:
Second it will not be a quick fix.
Thirdly, and most importantly You must be willing to lose her completely if you want her back.
This does mean that you may never get her back, but if that is the case, then you are in the right place already.
How old are you and her?
She finished with you, means she had enough of YOUR sh1t.
May sound harsh, but thats the reality here.
Good for you, deleting her - many guys don't and I dont understand why they dont.
No Contact means just that - you are cutting this person out of your life also cutting yourself out of their life too.
Main point to realise is that THEY ARE ALL REPLACABLE.
Go to the No Contact thread and read through, it'll give you some idea of what to expect.
Ideally this should be time for you to heal and get over this girl. Ive been through it, and I am better for it. i have learned and experienced a lot. Enough to know that THEY ARE REPLACABLE.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.