So as of Sunday me and my gf brokeup. Im lookin into getting her back. Looked into some get ur ex back stuff. Everything i read mentions Facebook and using it to make her jealous blah blah blah. Problem is, i deleted her as a friend. How do i go about becoming her friend again on fb since im trying to do no contact?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Oops...what the hell did i do?!?!?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Whoa, whoa, hold up there... WAIT A MINUTE!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KVZ1fuRFOk&t=1m47s
Who exactly decided to break up here? Was it you or her? And if it was you, then tell us why...
Coz if it was you, then I'm sure you had a pretty good reason for it, and it would be foolish to give up on your decision so soon because you're beginning to miss her...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KVZ1fuRFOk&t=1m47s
Who exactly decided to break up here? Was it you or her? And if it was you, then tell us why...
Coz if it was you, then I'm sure you had a pretty good reason for it, and it would be foolish to give up on your decision so soon because you're beginning to miss her...
Uncharted
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If she broke up with you, then you should be going no contact.
No contact doesn't only mean don't talk to her for a while - no contact means that YOU need to worry about yourself. Talk to other girls, try to pick some up, go on random dates. The point is to get yourself "unhooked" from her, so that you aren't so attached.
If she comes crawling back at some point, then it's up to you to decide - but then YOU have the decision power. In the meantime, enjoy yourself and do other things so you don't think about it.
No contact doesn't only mean don't talk to her for a while - no contact means that YOU need to worry about yourself. Talk to other girls, try to pick some up, go on random dates. The point is to get yourself "unhooked" from her, so that you aren't so attached.
If she comes crawling back at some point, then it's up to you to decide - but then YOU have the decision power. In the meantime, enjoy yourself and do other things so you don't think about it.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Well first. This is not easy.OhUMeanME said:
Second it will not be a quick fix.
Thirdly, and most importantly You must be willing to lose her completely if you want her back.
This does mean that you may never get her back, but if that is the case, then you are in the right place already.
How old are you and her?
She finished with you, means she had enough of YOUR sh1t.
May sound harsh, but thats the reality here.
Good for you, deleting her - many guys don't and I dont understand why they dont.
No Contact means just that - you are cutting this person out of your life also cutting yourself out of their life too.
Main point to realise is that THEY ARE ALL REPLACABLE.
Go to the No Contact thread and read through, it'll give you some idea of what to expect.
Ideally this should be time for you to heal and get over this girl. Ive been through it, and I am better for it. i have learned and experienced a lot. Enough to know that THEY ARE REPLACABLE.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.