It's interesting that you see deep conversations as a pvssy drier man! You were probably fine! I guess it depends what topic and how deep you go... but I LIVE for those conversations, hell, even on the first date if the woman is willing to share. Treating it like an interview, I'll just start asking her questions about her life (listening 90% of the time) and branch off from there. If she takes it to that point, I'll dig a little deeper. I think if you gradually do it and she seems fully comfortable disclosing things, it could work in your favor.
Ex.)
ME: "So, tell me about your parents?"
HER: "Well, my mom live in blah blah blah and does xyz and my dad lives in blah blah blah and does abc."
ME: "Oh, I see! So you're parents are divorced huh? Mine too. I feel ya. How old were you when they split up?"
HER: "I was blah blah blah..."
ME: "Wow, that sounds really tough. And do they ever have interact much now, or they never really see one another since you and your siblings are all older?"
HER: (Insert long conversation here).
Haha. you get the point.
Ok,uhh......but what's the end result of you doing this? Cause when I take a girl out,while I'm out on the date,it's my life's
MISSION......the
ONLY REASON I EXIST ON EARTH........in THAT MOMENT...is to NOT have conversations like that. The same way everybody's wearing masks,social distancing,washing their hands 300 times a day trying to avoid covid....that's how
I am with trying to avoid discussion like that.
It's ok to do SOME of it
AFTER attraction has been established,but if you lead off with that,(at least with my experiences),it's Friendzone City.
This girl I just went out with recently couldn't STOP talking about her life and was voluntarily telling me all types of wild **** (dad was a drug dealer and is dead now, mom had her own issues, something with her sibling, etc.). This girl couldn't wait to sit down and talk my ear off and share her life because women love to talk. If you listen, they'll fill in the gap no matter how deep the topic - I truly believe this!
My issue with this is,it seems more like a
therapy session than a date. Seems like she spent more time unburdening herself than feeling any type of attraction or chemistry......
WHICH IS THE WHOLE POINT of the date.
My personal experience has been....if you let the girl lead the date,lead in conversation,she's likely to lead the date right into the ditch.......then turn around and
blame YOU for the date not working out cause she didn't "feel anything". I generally will hold the frame when it comes to what topics to discuss. Even if I let her talk,I'll take tidbits of what she said and steer it back to the sexual realm.
No....I've been friendzoned waaay too many times to allow the girl to lead.
But hey......if this type of method works for you,maybe you can give us a few pointers. I'm curiuos to know how it worked out with the girl.
