"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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oooh she's jealous NOW!!

edgewater

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This girl, who I have come close to a few times (HB9.5 - no ****) has after 2 months of me not seeing/talking to her, sent me an email saying she still loves me but finds herself withdrawing from guys when they do too many nice things for her and she doesn't want to hurt me until she gets over this problem!

Now this is quite funny because around the time I was seeing her I was a COMPLETE AFC. (yes I even did the flowers and paper hearts when she started withdrawing from me - feel for me guys). Little does she know she wont be able to get over this feature because in the end - she's a woman!

Now, you all ask me, how did you get this chick in the first place if I'm such a chump? Well the truth is I used to be the quintessential DJ! WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING IT. I had her OBSESSED with me before I gave in to her. Woops.

Anyways I spun her an email back saying that what she is telling me isn't really news and I feel that theres something else she wants to tell me? eg LJBF (I know she doesn't want this tho ;)). I wrote back a sorta c/f but understanding yet sexy email (was a real piece of work) telling her that as much as she is so compatible for me, I'm not gonna wait around forever for someone who doesn't want my company - even they do tell me they love me.

Anyways the next time we IM'd she invites her HB8 cousin to the conversation. This is the same **** she used to do when she was avoiding talking to me. This time however I grasp the opportunity and start chatting her cousin up. HB9.5 soon leaves the conversation. Since that night a few nights ago, her HB8 cousin is constantly flirting with me - and HB9.5 is VERY JEALOUS. This is probably because they live in the same house and she can see her cousin grinning away when I'm talking to her. I saw her tell a friend of mine "he's flirting with my cousin:/". I did some neg hits on her (she didn't tell me her cousin was living her) so I told her her cousing told me she farts in her sleep. She didn't find this amusing. Another night I sent a message "I'm flirting with you cousing! She started it! and she replied "no comment" and went offline. I'll probably rot in hell for this.

But this brings me to the point - I want HB9.5 back. I still feel so strongly for her but I hide it well nowadays. Right now she is very jealous and pissed off with me. I need to establish a connection to her again but I am not doing the "im sorry" rap because I have done nothing wrong here! She flirted with me friends in front of me to piss me off too.

How should I approach this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Beatflux

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Let her compete for you. You're the prize! Girls want what they have to work for. Good luck and have fun!;)
 

LikRetsam

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Jealousy is a weak skill boy.

For it is low. But remember this. She's interrested in the competition, not you. IF ever she has you, she WILL drop you!
 

blienk

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The jealousy angle can work sometimes, but it sounds to me like you took things a little too far. I think you should tone down flirting with the cousin and just get back to the HB9.5 if that's who you really want.
 

JSH

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Can i ask a question, is most of this being done through IM, get out there in the real world for flirting. IM is good for intros and setting the scene but you need to irl as soon as possible.
Why is she pissed off, come back from an angle whereby you are not angry with her and dont let her be angry with you.


Best tip = JUST ASK HER OUT, it sounds like you have set too long prepping her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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