"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Only these types of guys are on OLD: change my mind

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A quote borrowed from an 2016 thread that describes thoroughly, the types of guys available in an online dating site.



guru1000 said:
online in an environment replete with guys sending divck pics, fake pictures, pictures that are misaligned with their true appearances, married guys, guy in LTRs looking for a fling, guys looking for sex only, couples looking for sex, nerds or socially-uncalibrated, or frauds?
*end of quote



There is no other type of guy available to be found on an online dating site.

Have you heard of a different type or if you've been on an online dating site, are you in a different category or do you agree this is the complete list?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The number of people that you're compatible with is already an extreme minority of the world. There is nothing new there.

OLD is a business that doesn't care about the outcome of it's product, there are enough thirsty/lonely people out there to keep propping it up even if it doesn't work.

Anything is possible though. I have a friend in south america who met a russian girl that lived in st petersburg thru Tinder. They've been married a few years now and just had a son.
 

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The number of people that you're compatible with is already an extreme minority of the world. There is nothing new there.

OLD is a business that doesn't care about the outcome of it's product, there are enough thirsty/lonely people out there to keep propping it up even if it doesn't work.

Anything is possible though. I have a friend in south america who met a russian girl that lived in st petersburg thru Tinder. They've been married a few years now and just had a son.
wow!
what a success story!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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OLD worked for me. I’ll be getting married this spring to a beautiful, zero-drama woman. It’s worth a shot if you’ve never tried it before. In my view, the trick is to write your profile to attract the one person you want, instead of trying to cast a wide net and go for numbers.
 

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OLD worked for me. I’ll be getting married this spring to a beautiful, zero-drama woman. It’s worth a shot if you’ve never tried it before. In my view, the trick is to write your profile to attract the one person you want, instead of trying to cast a wide net and go for numbers.
No sh1t Atom, you are in your 60s and no woman that age range willing to just be talked to is gonna create any drama.
 

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No sh1t Atom, you are in your 60s and no woman that age range willing to just be talked to is gonna create any drama.
We are all headed there eventually so I guess it gets easier with some time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OLD worked for me. I’ll be getting married this spring to a beautiful, zero-drama woman. It’s worth a shot if you’ve never tried it before. In my view, the trick is to write your profile to attract the one person you want, instead of trying to cast a wide net and go for numbers.
Yes. Congrats again, Atom. Don't drop the ball before the touchdown.
OLD worked for about 10 first dates(low cost for the men, I drove to them, we always paid for their own coffee or movie or meal or ice cream); one exfiance and one exboyfriend; oh and one ex-orbiter who didn't escalate.

I was thoroughly honest and direct and specific in my profile which all were surprised with and each of their profiles were a fib in some way or another.
The common fib was adding approx 3" to their height(I always set the height for the full range-I didn't care-and yes, I did chat for awhile with a midget man and once with a extra tall CFL man but neither of those would commit to meeting even once) or minusing 40 lbs from their weight.
I'm suspicious now when I see the word 'fit' typed anywhere by a man, lol, lol, lol.

This in 8.5 yrs. The 2 ltr's and orbiter were in the nerdy or socially uncalibrated category and all the first dates were men looking for p & d's only(so enjoyed the date but didn't see them again)

I'm done with OLD. Its creepy for a woman to advertise her face and body like that, I am studying hard at game and what's my feminine role still and I'm working hard on my health and image, harder than this time last year so I've improved.

While I appreciate Kotaix's optimism and his friend's success story and your success story, Atom, I won't be going back on.

I've read on sosuave the majority types of female profiles on OLD, there's a list somewhere; so it seems that quality is quite rare to find.
 

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No sh1t Atom, you are in your 60s and no woman that age range willing to just be talked to is gonna create any drama.
good point with maturity in behaviour changing as a woman gets older. Menopause helps balance women, imo
 

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We are all headed there eventually so I guess it gets easier with some time.
Yes, time is going to pass anyways.
We all might as well keep trying our best and improving and tweaking what we can. Interestingly, I have only been on one date since early last March.
I am committed to keep learning about dating and improving my looks.
 

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No way, I can hardly get turned on from women my own age being mid 30s.
I've read that before from a few guys your age and at your high fitness level that you reached a couple months ago, you have no problem getting the age group you really do like(have to take in the Covid challenges as an obstacle right now) but I'm certain you don't have to date your own age if you don't want to WDW!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I was about to say I'm not in any os those categories, but upon honest reflection I'm only on there for sex. Unless today's women want to do my cleaning and cook.
 

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I'm starting to think there is no good reason for a woman to have her image on the internet, anywhere.
If there is a good reason for candy, then surely there has to be a good reason for that too. Take this lady for example, she is on the internet. Do you think this music video is creepy to you?

 

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If there is a good reason for candy, then surely there has to be a good reason for that too. Take this lady for example, she is on the internet. Do you think this music video is creepy to you?

corrector, if there were no women on the internet, chances are more men would approach them real time when the men left their homes.
I don't feel like watching the video, thanks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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