"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Only these types of guys are on OLD: change my mind

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A quote borrowed from an 2016 thread that describes thoroughly, the types of guys available in an online dating site.



guru1000 said:
online in an environment replete with guys sending divck pics, fake pictures, pictures that are misaligned with their true appearances, married guys, guy in LTRs looking for a fling, guys looking for sex only, couples looking for sex, nerds or socially-uncalibrated, or frauds?
*end of quote



There is no other type of guy available to be found on an online dating site.

Have you heard of a different type or if you've been on an online dating site, are you in a different category or do you agree this is the complete list?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The number of people that you're compatible with is already an extreme minority of the world. There is nothing new there.

OLD is a business that doesn't care about the outcome of it's product, there are enough thirsty/lonely people out there to keep propping it up even if it doesn't work.

Anything is possible though. I have a friend in south america who met a russian girl that lived in st petersburg thru Tinder. They've been married a few years now and just had a son.
 

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The number of people that you're compatible with is already an extreme minority of the world. There is nothing new there.

OLD is a business that doesn't care about the outcome of it's product, there are enough thirsty/lonely people out there to keep propping it up even if it doesn't work.

Anything is possible though. I have a friend in south america who met a russian girl that lived in st petersburg thru Tinder. They've been married a few years now and just had a son.
wow!
what a success story!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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OLD worked for me. I’ll be getting married this spring to a beautiful, zero-drama woman. It’s worth a shot if you’ve never tried it before. In my view, the trick is to write your profile to attract the one person you want, instead of trying to cast a wide net and go for numbers.
 

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OLD worked for me. I’ll be getting married this spring to a beautiful, zero-drama woman. It’s worth a shot if you’ve never tried it before. In my view, the trick is to write your profile to attract the one person you want, instead of trying to cast a wide net and go for numbers.
No sh1t Atom, you are in your 60s and no woman that age range willing to just be talked to is gonna create any drama.
 

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No sh1t Atom, you are in your 60s and no woman that age range willing to just be talked to is gonna create any drama.
We are all headed there eventually so I guess it gets easier with some time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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OLD worked for me. I’ll be getting married this spring to a beautiful, zero-drama woman. It’s worth a shot if you’ve never tried it before. In my view, the trick is to write your profile to attract the one person you want, instead of trying to cast a wide net and go for numbers.
Yes. Congrats again, Atom. Don't drop the ball before the touchdown.
OLD worked for about 10 first dates(low cost for the men, I drove to them, we always paid for their own coffee or movie or meal or ice cream); one exfiance and one exboyfriend; oh and one ex-orbiter who didn't escalate.

I was thoroughly honest and direct and specific in my profile which all were surprised with and each of their profiles were a fib in some way or another.
The common fib was adding approx 3" to their height(I always set the height for the full range-I didn't care-and yes, I did chat for awhile with a midget man and once with a extra tall CFL man but neither of those would commit to meeting even once) or minusing 40 lbs from their weight.
I'm suspicious now when I see the word 'fit' typed anywhere by a man, lol, lol, lol.

This in 8.5 yrs. The 2 ltr's and orbiter were in the nerdy or socially uncalibrated category and all the first dates were men looking for p & d's only(so enjoyed the date but didn't see them again)

I'm done with OLD. Its creepy for a woman to advertise her face and body like that, I am studying hard at game and what's my feminine role still and I'm working hard on my health and image, harder than this time last year so I've improved.

While I appreciate Kotaix's optimism and his friend's success story and your success story, Atom, I won't be going back on.

I've read on sosuave the majority types of female profiles on OLD, there's a list somewhere; so it seems that quality is quite rare to find.
 

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No sh1t Atom, you are in your 60s and no woman that age range willing to just be talked to is gonna create any drama.
good point with maturity in behaviour changing as a woman gets older. Menopause helps balance women, imo
 

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We are all headed there eventually so I guess it gets easier with some time.
Yes, time is going to pass anyways.
We all might as well keep trying our best and improving and tweaking what we can. Interestingly, I have only been on one date since early last March.
I am committed to keep learning about dating and improving my looks.
 

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No way, I can hardly get turned on from women my own age being mid 30s.
I've read that before from a few guys your age and at your high fitness level that you reached a couple months ago, you have no problem getting the age group you really do like(have to take in the Covid challenges as an obstacle right now) but I'm certain you don't have to date your own age if you don't want to WDW!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I was about to say I'm not in any os those categories, but upon honest reflection I'm only on there for sex. Unless today's women want to do my cleaning and cook.
 

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I'm starting to think there is no good reason for a woman to have her image on the internet, anywhere.
If there is a good reason for candy, then surely there has to be a good reason for that too. Take this lady for example, she is on the internet. Do you think this music video is creepy to you?

 

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If there is a good reason for candy, then surely there has to be a good reason for that too. Take this lady for example, she is on the internet. Do you think this music video is creepy to you?

corrector, if there were no women on the internet, chances are more men would approach them real time when the men left their homes.
I don't feel like watching the video, thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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