"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tjslove

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I need help

I have been chatting with this girl in work.......it all started when she told me of her mother's health problem and I told her that my mother had the same problem. Later on it has led to where we would sit next to her in work and talk.

The story changed immensely. She started asking me if I liked her hair and she commented on a haircut I got. Afterward, she was saying that she needed a date for a wedding(THREE TIMES) and I answered back that I think she would manage. Later, just little comments that were argumentative came up and then I unfortunately drunk dialed her and told her I liked her......which I just laughed off.

I am at a standstill and do not know how much more to write. The other day at work I was sitting at a different desk and she asked if I would go sit next to her......which I did not.

I am not sure how to close the deal without causing an earthquake
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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cave dweller

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bread........

Hey,

Rule number 34 is:

Don't put your meat where you get your bread.

(maybe she has a 'hot' girlfriend)

cave dweller
 

mike88nbd

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Well if you like her then just make a move, it doesnt have to be anything big, just something casual, like;

"Hey, whats your number? Ill call you sometime and we'll go chill somewhere"

If your interested then you better make a move soon or your gonna end up just being friends.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Morphiex

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oki...? o_O

what do you want? a date with her?, then she is already showing you the signs.... Just grab your god damn balls and ask her out...
i dont see the problem, she even asked you out when she said she needed a date for a wedding, she kinda hinted it, but i guess u didnt understand that, they dont want to make the first move , she is waiting for you to do so, just ask her out if she ays no then move on.... better to know now then to walk around for months thinking of ways to impress her....
 

Morphiex

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Re: why

Originally posted by tjslove
why
cuz people tend to move on and not obsess over the same person fo al time , they meet new people and get into new relationships...
And they sometime loose interest... u HAVE HER WHERE U WANT HER,just ask her out for a date.... nothing fancy, a movie then get some grub then take your car, if u have one, and drive to the lake and sit on the hood and eat and talk while listening to some tunes...
 
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