"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Only average or below average looking girls are attracted to me it seems like?

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I've had luck with 5s but wanna step it up to start pulling actually cute and hot chicks not just run of the mill average looking woman. I'm a pretty good looking guy have decent style stay in shape from what ive been told im funny etc. But it seems all i pull are average looking females. Is it because I'm just an average looking guy or I mean how do I step it up?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You have to raise your own attractiveness. You must become what you seek.

1) Start eating a healthier diet.
2) Try a liver detox fast.
3) Switch to distilled or reverse osmosis water.
4) Add organic chlorella to your daily diet.
5) Hire a physical trainer and work out 3 days per week for 1 hour each, minimum.
6) Start swimming and bicycling.
7) Get a tan. One hour of sun per day without sunscreen is ideal.
8) Focus on your mission in life and earn more money.

From this point you'll gain confidence as you'll get lots of good feedback.
 

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Do you have a deep voice, strong jawline and are at least 5'9" in height?

Are you also doing ok financially?

If not.. there is your answer.
 

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Where are you approaching is my question.... Bars , OLD ??? That may help with appropriate advice... There has been some previous threads re approaching 9s just to build resistance to this kinda rejection...once you become oblivious to failure ,a re normalised with this standard ie 8s and not "awestruct" ( just assumption as you are doing fine with the 5s) you will do better....Jon
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Move to a secondary city like Nashville,Tn or Tampa because girls aren't hell bent on looks/money/status like they are in cities like Atlanta or Miami. All you need is some identity, good tinder pics, white skin, and a social group because I see so many ugly fat men with hot women down here.
 

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I feel a bit like this.
I've noticed that average women(in the true sense) on dating apps mostly message me first with the concessional HB7-8(based on pics at least) doing so.
IRL however i don't notice average women or overweight women looking at me much, i dont catch them. It's usually HB7-8s that will hold eye contact across a room or on a street or whatever.
Really confusing. is it just a confidence thing with these women or what?
 

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I live in the suburbs of the washginton dc area. im 5'10 and stocky about 205 well muscled not ripped or fat but strong and athletic looking. I have a beard. I workout alot. my jawline is ok im not a model but im pretty attractive across the board. I dont make crazy money no. I am blue collar and look the part. I've been called a country boy (im originally from sc) but constantly only get attention from average looking woman.
 

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You need to figure out a way to become wealthy, or be satisfied with fatties.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I live in the suburbs of the washginton dc area. im 5'10 and stocky about 205 well muscled not ripped or fat but strong and athletic looking. I have a beard. I workout alot. my jawline is ok im not a model but im pretty attractive across the board. I dont make crazy money no. I am blue collar and look the part. I've been called a country boy (im originally from sc) but constantly only get attention from average looking woman.
And your phvcking? Be happy
 

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I dont want theae average woman anymore..... i feel as if i can pull a 6-9. I usually gonto bars or concerts to find woman
 

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Or target your markets. It's a lot easier than becoming Superman. I only fish in buckets these days. Look at some of my back posts for tips.
what do you mean by this? target the type of chicks that will like me? problem is noone around here is like me lol
 

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I live in the suburbs of the washginton dc area. im 5'10 and stocky about 205 well muscled not ripped or fat but strong and athletic looking. I have a beard. I workout alot. my jawline is ok im not a model but im pretty attractive across the board. I dont make crazy money no. I am blue collar and look the part. I've been called a country boy (im originally from sc) but constantly only get attention from average looking woman.
Women in the DC area only care about MONEY and education. DC is very elitist like that. In fact.. looks are less important than education in DC.

You need to look into Baltimore or further out in the suburbs to pull hotter women. You are not what the DC market wants (blue collar).

Guys.. understand the market of each major city. I don't know the west coast that well, but I know the east coast pretty good:

NYC = MONEY, career and materialism
Philly = MONEY and personality (hipster)
Baltimore = MONEY and personality (alcoholic)
DC = MONEY and education
Miami = MONEY and looks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I live in the rural ish suburbs of dc though.... but i see where your coming from what should I do?
 

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Some products are valuable to the whole market. Some products have only niche appeal and need to be marketed to specific segments. This comes down to knowing what strengths you have. So you said you have country boy style and live in a rural area. So if you're an outdoorsy type find outdoorsy chicks. EG look for hiking groups with good ratios.

I'm into asian chicks. After decades putting up with their s*** I can't cope with Western princesses anymore. So I belong to badminton groups where I find Asian chicks who are sporty. Asians love food and cooking. So I hit on them in the Asian grocery stores. I'm good at online dating and I've learnt to write a profile that the Asian girls love.

So there you go by applying my strengths to my market and looking for places that have plenty of girls I'm fishing in a bucket.

Most guys are stupid and do exactly the opposite. They go to a bar which is a c0ck Forest and then they come here whinging that they got AMOGed and all the girls were b1tches who thought their pvssy was made of gold.

Now I'm being kind here spelling this out as I'm assuming you're young because you seem to have a desire to be spoon-fed which is not the way of a man.

As important as advice is practice. So go find your bucket and then target hb7 s and above. Get some experience then come back here and research your sticking point s. And I mean research not sit to there with your beak open waiting to be fed. You re really not showing any signs of having read the DJ Bible which is kind of the price of entry here.
 
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Phvcking 5-7 who go out there way for you and give it how you want it is better than playing games with 9-10 who continue to try to test your frame and aren't reliable.
 

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You have to raise your own attractiveness. You must become what you seek.

1) Start eating a healthier diet.
2) Try a liver detox fast.
3) Switch to distilled or reverse osmosis water.
4) Add organic chlorella to your daily diet.
5) Hire a physical trainer and work out 3 days per week for 1 hour each, minimum.
6) Start swimming and bicycling.
7) Get a tan. One hour of sun per day without sunscreen is ideal.
8) Focus on your mission in life and earn more money.

From this point you'll gain confidence as you'll get lots of good feedback.
This. You attract the level of person you are.

-Get fitter out on muscle. No need to look like a pro wrestler but look good in your clothes.

-Get a bolder haircut.

-Keep your living space neat.

-Do fun sh*t.

-Actually pay attention to clothes. Splurge on a little designer if you can afford it.

-Cologne


just be a better man
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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