"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Only Approach with signs of interest? For seasoned Don Juans

HighResurrection

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I usually approach anything to push out of my comfort zone. However I would like to cut down on bad numbers and flakes.

Is it wise to only approach women after signs such as prolonged eye contact, proximity etc?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hydrak

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Depends. If I am in the gym I usually only approach girls who stare at me (most do ;)). If I'm walking outside, in the park/mall or whatever you don't really have time to see if the girl has a high IL or not. If you want to reduce number of flakes, then by all means go ahead. However, you will manage to do a lot less approaches that way.

Approaching 100 women is better than approaching 10 in the long run. If you are afraid of flakes, just double date or triple date just to be sure.
 

playa99

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If you approach women who show interest i.e. eye contact, smiling. Then in theory its gonna be easier to get there number. However in reality we know it's how you hold yourself, how confident you are during the approach which can affect getting the number. If the initial interests there and you do well in an approach, make her laugh and leave her wondering about you then yeah, the girls gonna be less of a flake risk, because she's maintained interest throughout.

If interest grows throughout the conversation... great!

If interest seems to decrease throughout the conversation... She will probably flake or give you a duff number!
 
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