online vs real life?

[jlr12584]

i have a very interesting question to ask and i'd really like to understand whats going on. Online, i seem to find myself being complimented extremely by women ( i have a webcam) and to show that i have a list of things said by all diff girls

littlekimmy_2004: I think i have just found the cutest guy ever
supergirl_819: wow wee ur hot
ae_babe22: ur hot
xxdixiegirlxx21 xxdixiegirlxx21 (8:59:59 PM): ok then ur ****in hot
(9:32:11 PM): no you are so cute
lllll_fantasy_lllll: ur damn hot urself
blondiebtch69: your cute
louisvuittonlexi: hey sexy
louisvuittonlexi: your really cute
louisvuittonlexi: and have sxy eyes
dazsmith_1: **** ur hot
jennygrl1002 : ur so cute
stoneyboi16: hey UR HOT
seresone_member: man u should be a model
seresone_member: you looks just like one
jennywilli2000: damn cute

however in real life, i often dont even get looked at as i pass by ( like i dont exist or something ) and no girls ever come up and approach me or tell me this. whats going on here?

 

[Delta Male]

This is an interesting topic. Here's why you get compliments online and not in real life:

Most likely, you are very good looking as in you have a good body and face. This gets you the online compliments. HOWEVER, in the real world, girls don't just judge if you're hot based on looks, they also judge it based on your vibe and presence.

This is something that women can tell without even talking to you. Your tone of voice, how you carry yourself, how you walk, how confident you look, and all the other things that make up your vibe. And, if you give off a good vibe, women will verbalize that as "that guy is hot," even if you don't have objectively the best face and body. However, if you exude insecurity, have bad body language/fvcked up voice, then girls will not be turned on by you and not think you are hot, even if in a picture you look good.

I know this because I get compliments on my looks from women all the time in real life. But, when I put my picture on hotornot.com, I got a 4.2 or some **** like that. But that's ok...because all the hot women are in the real world, not in some chat room.

-Dan

Dan, the cool RSI intern
http://www.rapidsocialimpact.com

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Thats why Im not starting to like online...For one, I already know that my body language, vibe, presence, etc. is the thing that gets girls attracted to me, so already that part is out...Plus I hate talking with women on AIM or the phone, its better for me if I can see these girls in person cause then I could tell where its heading and Im wayyy more funny in real life then on the phone or AIM...Plus I need to see the girl in person to see how she moves, talks, reacts to me, etc...Real life is still the best way...

 

[Carioca123]

Real life is the only way. You cant get laid through a pc.

 

[frivolousz21]

exactly! the online thing is best suited for new comers to the game.

 

[spider_007]

could it be that the reall gurls have higher standards then the desperate fat gurls online.

 

[yunghova35]

Originally posted by Delta Male
This is an interesting topic. Here's why you get compliments online and not in real life:

Most likely, you are very good looking as in you have a good body and face. This gets you the online compliments. HOWEVER, in the real world, girls don't just judge if you're hot based on looks, they also judge it based on your vibe and presence.

This is something that women can tell without even talking to you. Your tone of voice, how you carry yourself, how you walk, how confident you look, and all the other things that make up your vibe. And, if you give off a good vibe, women will verbalize that as "that guy is hot," even if you don't have objectively the best face and body. However, if you exude insecurity, have bad body language/fvcked up voice, then girls will not be turned on by you and not think you are hot, even if in a picture you look good.

I know this because I get compliments on my looks from women all the time in real life. But, when I put my picture on hotornot.com, I got a 4.2 or some **** like that. But that's ok...because all the hot women are in the real world, not in some chat room.

-Dan

Dan, the cool RSI intern
http://www.rapidsocialimpact.com

No only that, but online people say things more freely

Think about it when your online you say bold statements controversial ones that are all based on how you feel, but since there is less risk you can say them anyway. In the real world no one wants to get embarrassed or rejected so we keep a lot of things to our self.

So don’t think that these chicks are lying or your not hot, its just the fact that many woman are too shy as a person to say this without the security of a pc screen.

 

[jlr12584]

nah some of these girls are hot man, they have webcams too so its not like i have no idea who i am looking at

 

[Cheat_LBJ]

Originally posted by jlr12584
nah some of these girls are hot man, they have webcams too so its not like i have no idea who i am looking at

It's still not the same. You are both hiding behind a computer.

And, the fact of the matter is, if she was hot and worth it, she'd be ****ing some guy instead of sitting on her computer.

-LB

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by jlr12584
...however in real life, i often dont even get looked at as i pass by ( like i dont exist or something ) and no girls ever come up and approach me or tell me this. whats going on here?

What happens when you approach them?