You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hahaha not particularly man, even tho she's actually wealthy for a country like mine. Thing is I'm moving to her hometown after the pandemic. The objective is to keep that spark until I'm there and solely by texting and videocalls and that stuff cause I can't see her now.
Here is the thing: When you have to say "Sex is not on the table" what she means, is sex is not on the table for you specifically.
Actually, when a woman tells me "we're not gonna have sex tonight" I can be pretty sure we will have sex tonight.
What did this add to your post? I dont see a reason for this to be included, you provide no reasoning or explanation.
When she says sth like that she probably has already sex with you in her mind. If she doesnt see you in a sexual context, she will avoid sex as topic.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
In an actual conversation, sure, but that is outside the context of the thread.
Honestly you are probably hurting yourself more than helping yourself doing that. You would think that works well but it actually doesn't...usually the longer you talk without meeting up the worse it is because the person develops a mental image of who you are and if you don't match up to it in person then they can't reconcile that. When you don't interact with them that much then they can't build up this image of you and they are much more open to how you are in person.
I wouldn't say never, but most times. I agree, it's a bad idea. Meet other women.
Thanks pals, however as I mentioned, I CANNOT MEET UP WITH ANYONE BECAUSE OF COVID AND MY COUNTRY'S STRICT LAWS. I mentioned that a date is arranged once covid is gone, our date is already planned but I CAN'T MEET UP not only with her but any other women