"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Online Story Gone Sour

Snarfwidget

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Hi guys, first time posting on here. I've come across a problem and I think this board is just the right place to ask for advice. I'll be as short about it as possible.

I started chatting with a girl online. We talked occasionally but I kept my distance. I joked around with her a lot. I started getting to know her after a several weeks I realized that she was pretty ****ing stupid.

At first it was okay the usual chatter. But about if I remember a week after we started talking she messages me real cryptic-like slowly working her way to tell me that she was raped by a Muslim guy. This story came out of the blue, but I wasn't shocked about it for some reason I always end up with the crazy women (working on this). I listened in, horrified about the story and pissed that anyone could do this to her. More on this coming up.

Sometime passed by, we eventually exchanged phone numbers. I would text her and she would respond., vice versa. Then one day out of nowhere she sent me a text while I'm in class about the guy who raped her being at her house. The guy who raped her was her fathers friend. I got back home and tried being a good friend to her. But she wouldn't talk to me on the mic as she usually did, and I could sense that she was angry but taking it out on me, so I sorta backed off. At the end of the conversation she joked about whether she would talk to me again.

It ended up that I ignored her from then on. She continued trying to get ahold of me but not only was she a stupid ***** who had no sense of humor I just didn't like her. She tried numerous times to contact me leaving me messages. I ignored 'em only cause I put too much time into it and it was a waste for me. 2 months have gone by now. And she is STILL trying to get ahold of me. I find out that she got ahold of someone I regularly talk to online trying to find out where I was. Well, she called me yesterday. The weird part, she called me many times in a matter of minutes. Then called me one last time a few hours later.

I'm going to continue to ignore her. I'm not annoyed because I know she's a crazy girl especially for continuing to bother with the situation after 2 months. But what should I do if incase it doesn't stop?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Miguel

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Simple, CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER! lol, I'm kinda not the brightest and I can think this one up man. Common!
 

Maxtro

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I think you should firmly but still politely tell her that you never want to communicate with her again. Hopefully she will get the message and leave you alone.

If she doesn't stop after that then you may need to change your contact info.
 
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