"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Online Profile Pics READ THIS.....

gixxer

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OK, guys, here's some killer data for you.

Had a friend snap a bunch of pics of me last week. I'm wearing a leather motorcycle jacket and sitting on my bike. I deliberately concentrated on feeling like a ****y d!ck in most of the pics but smiled in a few - mostly because he was busting on me for trying so hard to look like a d!ck.

Now the interesting part. I cropped the two best pics so you can just see the fairing of the bike but my head and upper body are the main focus. Both the pics were virtually the same except that I'm smiling in one and not in the other.

Posted each on hotornot. The results:

Not smiling: 9.4
Smiling:6.8

More proof that nice guys don't get laid!

gixx
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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al77

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Originally posted by gixxer
Posted each on hotornot. The results:

Not smiling: 9.4
Smiling:6.8
More proof that nice guys don't get laid!
Good research, though I think it is not that straightforward.
You have to be congruent in the pic. If you are on a bike, helmet\etc - you tend to send "bad boy" sort of image. Do bad boys smile? No.

If you are wearing t-shirt\shorts and there is a beach in thebackground and you are serious as hell... well, you are not congruent.

Although you observation does make sense in general: most male models wear suits and dont wear smiles.
 

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thats interesting.
 

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Re: Re: Online Profile Pics READ THIS.....

Originally posted by al77
Good research, though I think it is not that straightforward.
You have to be congruent in the pic. If you are on a bike, helmet\etc - you tend to send "bad boy" sort of image. Do bad boys smile? No.

If you are wearing t-shirt\shorts and there is a beach in thebackground and you are serious as hell... well, you are not congruent.

Although you observation does make sense in general: most male models wear suits and dont wear smiles.
I was hoping someone was going to bring that up. Good job.:up:
 

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I posted two pics and got a 9.5 and a 9.7, then posted another that was almost the same and it was a 6?

Hotornot is a fickle mistress. My smiling pics did a little better than non-smiling in the past. I like to test run them there before I put them on Myspace or Match. If it gets a 9+, I roll with it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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al77

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Originally posted by HereToImprove
Hotornot is a fickle mistress. My smiling pics did a little better than non-smiling in the past. I like to test run them there before I put them on Myspace or Match. If it gets a 9+, I roll with it.
You got it - it is fickle as hell.
Better post you pics somehwere and post link here: you will have plenty of feedback. This is much better than to realy on oinipon of some 17y.o. who vote on hotornot.
 
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