"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Online Personals Without A Pic?
- Thread starter Juan_Man
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Search the forum, there's countless posts about it.
Go on Yahoo personals. There you can remain invisible and have only people you have contacted be able to see your profile.
Match...I'm really starting to hate that service. Virtually no privacy now...you have to be visible to everyone for someone to see your profile, and now you're even able to see who's looked at your profile.
And check this out. My match profile has been hidden for two months, but somehow three people viewed my profile yesterday. Also, a girl in my club saw it is now harassing me about things I wrote in it. I think she's a little spiteful and bitter that I turned her down last fall when I started seeing my ex. Still trying to figure out how to handle this...ignore her, tell her to fvck off, or try to defuse the situation so she doesn't try to embarrass me in front of other people we know.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What the heck did you write to get he so teed off or did you lead her on?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LegalSeduction
Don Juan
would match.com or any company allow you to have an image like that? would they cancel your account or something?
squirrels
Master Don Juan
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Dude...would you try to get with a GIRL who didn't provide a pic? You will get zippy chicks without one.
Just take one and upload it. Are you ashamed of your appearance?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
They won't cancel your subscription, they just wouldn't post something like that.
LegalSeduction
Don Juan
what do you mean? they screen all the pictures before they're uploaded? i thought it was automated
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The pictures are validated by human intervention. If it were automated, people could post any type of picture imaginable.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The problem is not, at least according to the guy asking, that he's ashamed of his apperence. The problem is that he feels ashamed of entering the online dating scene. Now, this IS a problem.
I've posted online profiles at different websites getting ZERO responses without pictures(During the first days, or week, when the staff are 'accepting' the picture), and then immidiately having girls writting to me once the picture(s) are there.
This is a fact.
Now, to the most important point. Do not believe that someone will write you and ask for a picture unless your personal profile is outstanding(Even then the odds will be against you).
Why is this? People are lazy!!! Just put yourself in their situation. There are thousands of guys on the dating site, and almost all have pictures. Why in the whole world would this girl take her time to first write you a email, motivate why she wants the picture, wait for hours and even days to recieve the picture -- When she knows that you might - not even - be good-looking?(from her point of view... which is the only one that really matters in this case).
This girl knows that she, instead, could spend this time finding at least 10 other guys which she ALREADY KNOWS are good looking.
Just think about it. This is how I do when browsing communities like myspace or dating sites for good-looking girls.
If I see a girl without a picture(which have been a member for a while) I think;
"Oh, if she doesn't have a picture im sure she's ashamed of herself. NEXT!"
As a matter of fact I don't even read the personal description. The first thing I do is looking at the picture and trying to decide weather I wanna get to know her or not.
Girls work the same way.
You do as you like, but just remember - The odds are clearly against you without a picture. It's up to you.
LegalSeduction
Don Juan
Could you please name some of them? I'd like to sign up with one