You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Keep EVERYTHING lighthearted, C&F until... well... always. Don't ever say you're a romantic nice guy who still believes in the long lost art of chivalry. My profile mainly just listed some of the things that I most love doing in life (guy stuff like motorcycling and mountainbiking) - basically give the impression that your life is full and that any girl is gonna have to compete hard for your time. And when I mean your life is full, work and study don't count - everyone has to do these things - it should be stuff you really enjoy and make time for, not excuses to get out of.miscombobulated2
I have been utterly unsuccessful in getting even a single reply on all the online dating sites I've tried. Can you guys post some transcripts of what you did to get an answer?
Contrary to popular belief, online chicks are not aliens. They actually are people too. Don't quote me on that though...i dont think i would get into a relationship with an online chick. the ones i meet are usually weird and i just try getting them into the sack. thats about all they're good for.
Yeah, I didn't get too many replies from my profile, but if you try to find something that relates to you in theirs- they will be likely to respond. Just try and make it clear ASAP that you are not some loser jerkoff...you're busy and you see this as a cool way to meet someone more like yourself.I have been utterly unsuccessful in getting even a single reply on all the online dating sites I've tried. Can you guys post some transcripts of what you did to get an answer?
Again, like the real world, the expectation is that the guy initiates things. I have had only 2 girls ever contact me first, and those were just "kisses" - a service whereby attention wh&*rs can fish for more responses to their profiles.matius
Yeah, I didn't get too many replies from my profile, but if you try to find something that relates to you in theirs- they will be likely to respond.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In my experience, this has been true in almost every case. If they can't think of something to say online, they'll have little to bring to the party in the flesh. And I can almost guarantee that they'll be equally unimaginative between the sheets.Originally posted by Howie Farkes
4). More than half of the girls will not write much about themselves in their profile beyond "I like music, going out dancing, romantic dinners and the beach. I also like going to the movies and curling up on the couch to watch a video ". Don't bother emailing these girls. I actually managed to date a few who had profiles like this and they are very boring people. But I guess that all depends on what you're looking for.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your recommended website seems to be down. I'll keep trying every 5 minutes for a week or until it comes back, whichever comes first. I bet there's lots of hot chicks at gooutinreallife.comOriginally posted by Dee-Zy
www.gooutinreallife.com
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.