"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Online dating question - girl is shy but interested

ohiobohio518

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Exchanged a few emails with a girl online, asked her for her number and asked her out. She told me she wants to get to know me better, but is "super shy" and would like to talk a little more via email first before hanging out in real life. I played it real cool, saying don't worry, let me know when you feel more comfortable.

After just one more email exchange, she gave me her number and said to text her. I texted her playfully so she has my number. Limited the exchange to 4 texts total.

When is an appropriate time for me to bring up getting together again? I respect that she's shy, and I respect online dating is scary for some women. Should I write her a few more emails and then ask her again? Or is now a good time, now that she apparently trusts me enough with her number?

Thanks for the help :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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joverby

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Well, you have her phone #. You exchanged texts. What's stopping her from calling her for plans, lets say this weekend? You doing anything fun to invite her along with?

You have more paitence than me. I was talking to a girl online who played that card. I went along with it for a little bit. Made the "mistake" to ask her again a couple e-mails later, she declined again so I just sent her a message about how she is guarding it like Fort Knox. I didn't really care at that point, not in the mood to be a pen pal and play games.

I just call her and set up plans, you do have her phone # you know. Why go back to e-mailing her?
 

ohiobohio518

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Good idea. I'll just call her. I have patience for this one because she's hot, lol. You're right, I should not go back to emailing. That's a horrible idea. I'll give her a call tomorrow night. Thanks
 
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