"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Online dating getting harder, or time to reevaluate myself?

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I need some advice fellas - I've been spinning my tires lately - and might need to reevaluate myself and make some changes.

From 2008-2011 I was killing it on POF. No problems getting second dates and spinning plates, short flings, banging a new girl at minimum once per month while messing around with others on the regular.

Was in a LTR from Aug 2011 to Sept 2013.

I got back on POF from Oct to Dec and was meeting girls left and right. Except this time I garnered very little interest. Slept with two girls, messed around with a few others, but for the number I met, those numbers were very low compared to before.

Now I've been playing around with Tinder. Of the maybe dozen I've met, I haven't had so much as a second date. Basically never hear from them again.

I'm still the same 155 lb physique, same clothing style, non-smoker, runner/cyclist. Only potential problem that comes to mind is that I'm still using photos from 2011-2012 (no 2013 dated photos I really like), but I wouldn't use them if I thought my appearance had changed.

I'm stumped, not sure if I need to take a closer look at myself, or if standards are going up :confused:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Online dating requires very little game. If a woman find you pictures attractive you will land a first date with her. That is why women that resort to online dating will never be relationship material. If you want to speak hypergamy, they are the very definition.

Although having said that, not all women do OLD. And not all women who you meet have done OLD. Many members will tell you the generic definition of how women find mates, but I can attest that Not All Women Are Like That. NAWALT.

What you need to realize is that you can and WILL attract a better pool of women offline. I'm fvcking serious. Please believe me. It's all about relationship building instead of swipe right if they are attractive. I rely heavily on my social game, once you develop that, you will be a rockstar. Just focus on your strengths, love people for who they are and you will gather more options than you can friendzone.
 
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