"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She digged that today would had been good in a joking way. We're tentatively set for next Wednesday. She's flying to Dallas for some convention on Saturday and will be back Tuesday. So, we'll see if I hear from her next Tuesday. She also just told me that she's self-employed. I find that a plus. I didn't ask her about that or the texting would had continued. Said I had to go as I have to get up early tom. Lotta words she was sending about where she was going and suggestions on things to do. I know the area she's going, so I did state that. I sent her a link on a site that I use, then set the tentative date for next week. Then, ended the chat.


The other one, Mazer was correct, went to voicemail. I didn't leave a message. I did, however, text her and say hey Amy, it's Rick from Bumble. Nothing yet. Two other women from Bumble messaged me, but they are in NYC.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Usually when a woman opens up with something negative it means she is rejecting you but wants to let you down easily.

bad day= stop contacting me

A woman with interest would have said " I was having a bad day but its gotten better now that you texted me"

I wouldnt even respond. Next!
Or she could have been fishing for him to throw something out like "long day here too.....we need a pick me up full of good convo, laughs and a drink or 3. Let's meet up at 8pm at blah blah blah".

If there is contact initiated on her part then there is some interest. Gotta shyte or get off the pot and set a date up quickly while still being light and fun.
 

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Here's a new one. The other call called me back and said hello Rick it's Amy then hung up the phone. I called her back thinking that the call was lost, it went to VM. Shot a text, no response. Strange.
 

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Here's a new one. The other call called me back and said hello Rick it's Amy then hung up the phone. I called her back thinking that the call was lost, it went to VM. Shot a text, no response. Strange.
Very strange. Maybe her cell plan got canceled during the call. Maybe aliens abducted her through special space warping methods.

Point being is this- dont worry about it. I have scratched my head on numerous occasions when communicating (or not communicating) with women. The key is to let it be and if she reaches out (with a good excuse) great, if she doesn't...well thats great too.
 

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Very strange. Maybe her cell plan got canceled during the call. Maybe aliens abducted her through special space warping methods.

Point being is this- dont worry about it. I have scratched my head on numerous occasions when communicating (or not communicating) with women. The key is to let it be and if she reaches out (with a good excuse) great, if she doesn't...well thats great too.
No doubt, just never experienced this before, a lady call you back, say Hello, and hang up after I say hello? I thought it was the connection, so I called back twice and it went to voicemail and texted once to follow up. So weird, but will not be reaching out again. Just thought it would be interesting to share.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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No doubt, just never experienced this before, a lady call you back, say Hello, and hang up after I say hello? I thought it was the connection, so I called back twice and it went to voicemail and texted once to follow up. So weird, but will not be reaching out again. Just thought it would be interesting to share.
Instead of getting frustrated and overly thinking these weird things when they happen, realize that you are probably dealing with a mentally unstable OLD participant and be thankful that you probably a dodged bullet.
 

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And if she does reach out via phone call, I would definitely NOT answer. She will follow it up with a text after she gets your vm to which I would wait a minimum of 5 hours to respond with a 1-3 word bored acting response.

Thats if she reaches out. If she doesnt there is certainly nothing lost here with her.
 

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3 unanswered texts, next and wait if they respond... try again in a month.
Im on a few plates now with this... oddly.
 

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Here's a new one. The other call called me back and said hello Rick it's Amy then hung up the phone. I called her back thinking that the call was lost, it went to VM. Shot a text, no response. Strange.
Maybe her bf walked in on her haha
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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