"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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online/AIM C&F...

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SlyD4rK

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has anyone else realized this is flippin hard to do?

recently ive been using a lot of wink/smile/tongue happy faces with my comments....

but what do you guys think? avoid it or continue with smileys? or another strat?

comments?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just avoid AIM in the first place. C&F is is about how you say things not just what you say, and that is virutally impossible online.
 

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i see so do you suggest that if im on, make it like a phone call? (quick, simple, short, and to-the-point) ?

thanks for input BTW
 

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It is a lot harder to do because you can't use body language and stuff...

I've found smilies are the way to go, I use the tongue one and the biggrin one a lot. Recently though I've just been saying screw it, more hassle than its worth and keeping my status offline or doing other stuff. Or just don't use it, have normal conversations to kill time..
 

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I only talk to my friends online. I do talk to chicks, but usually ones that I'm not working my game on. If I meet a new girl, I never give out my screen name or anything.

If there is a girl that has your screen name, never be the first to talk to her, take a long time to reply to them, and always sign off before they do (say you have to go cuz ur in a hurry or whatever)

But you want to avoid talking to girls on AIM if possible.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jerky Boi

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I'm not a real big fan of online C and F but if you're going to be online, make sure you're not online a whole lot. You tend to look like you don't have much of a life if a girl sees you on a lot. It's really hard to interpret though since you can't see the body language.
 

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You cannot do C&F over aim because aim sucks and you cannot communicate over aim. Use aim to set things up, don't flirt.
 
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