"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SlyD4rK

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has anyone else realized this is flippin hard to do?

recently ive been using a lot of wink/smile/tongue happy faces with my comments....

but what do you guys think? avoid it or continue with smileys? or another strat?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NYC Dude

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Just avoid AIM in the first place. C&F is is about how you say things not just what you say, and that is virutally impossible online.
 

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i see so do you suggest that if im on, make it like a phone call? (quick, simple, short, and to-the-point) ?

thanks for input BTW
 

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It is a lot harder to do because you can't use body language and stuff...

I've found smilies are the way to go, I use the tongue one and the biggrin one a lot. Recently though I've just been saying screw it, more hassle than its worth and keeping my status offline or doing other stuff. Or just don't use it, have normal conversations to kill time..
 

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I only talk to my friends online. I do talk to chicks, but usually ones that I'm not working my game on. If I meet a new girl, I never give out my screen name or anything.

If there is a girl that has your screen name, never be the first to talk to her, take a long time to reply to them, and always sign off before they do (say you have to go cuz ur in a hurry or whatever)

But you want to avoid talking to girls on AIM if possible.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Jerky Boi

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I'm not a real big fan of online C and F but if you're going to be online, make sure you're not online a whole lot. You tend to look like you don't have much of a life if a girl sees you on a lot. It's really hard to interpret though since you can't see the body language.
 

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You cannot do C&F over aim because aim sucks and you cannot communicate over aim. Use aim to set things up, don't flirt.
 
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