"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I need a bit of advice. I met this woman about 4 months ago. We will call her Sally. Played the challenge role to a tee and she ended up asking me out. We went a couple times and I was such a challenge so she gave up. We kept in contact as 'friends' and she did admit she had a romantic interest in me. We started hanging out again in a group. One night a bunch of us were out at a housewarming party and I ran into a female friend of mine that she also knew. I chatted this friend up to the point where Sally ended up being a little on the jealous side. Over the last couple weeks I have noticed her gazing at me and trying to get a bit closer again. She actually asked me about this female friend twice. Once after it happened and about three weeks later. She wanted to know if I asked her out.

My question is this..how should I play this? Assume she is interested due to her jealousy factor or test the waters slowly?

Any Advice from you experts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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newyorkman said:
I need a bit of advice. I met this woman about 4 months ago. We will call her Sally. Played the challenge role to a tee and she ended up asking me out. We went a couple times and I was such a challenge so she gave up. We kept in contact as 'friends' and she did admit she had a romantic interest in me. We started hanging out again in a group. One night a bunch of us were out at a housewarming party and I ran into a female friend of mine that she also knew. I chatted this friend up to the point where Sally ended up being a little on the jealous side. Over the last couple weeks I have noticed her gazing at me and trying to get a bit closer again. She actually asked me about this female friend twice. Once after it happened and about three weeks later. She wanted to know if I asked her out.

My question is this..how should I play this? Assume she is interested due to her jealousy factor or test the waters slowly?

Any Advice from you experts?
Yes. Stop playing coy (like a woman).

But we still need more information. What do you want with Sally?
 

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newyorkman said:
... We went a couple times and I was such a challenge so she gave up.
:crackup:
Sorry...
newyorkman said:
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My question is this..how should I play this? Assume she is interested due to her jealousy factor or test the waters slowly?
Have to ask, are you even interested in this woman now?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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then way don't you? Stop overdoing the whole challenge thing and sticking to rules. It is ok to test her, but you're gonna end up blowing it with girls who initially had high interest. It has happened to me several times in the last few years. I was so in control and kept breaking them down that they lost interest.

Seems like if you hurry, you can still get her to agree on anything you want.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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yeah I am looking to date Sally. Nothing too exclusive though.
Then just tell her when you're going to do something and tell her that she'd have a good time if she came along.
 

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The definition of "challenge" when it comes to gaming women isn't to avoid them, but to make them see that you're valuable to other women. Letting women know that other women desire you will fuel their curiosity about you. When that happens, they start thinking about you more. When they start thinking about you more, they start wanting you more. Then they'll get defensive when another woman is interested in you. You'll be surprised at what she'll call other women who show an interest in you, even if the other women only show it with their body language.

Never verbally give away what your status is with other women. In fact, over-exaggerate it. Tell her you're dating this other women, her two sisters, her mom, and her aunt Shelley. Let her know that you're interested with your actions. (Note: actions does NOT mean buying 5hit for her). Use Kino and be playful with her. Act like you're both children, and she's your best friend.

Take Sally out for a date. Hell, take her on a few dates and have fun with her. The best things you can do on a date is use kino and have fun, so make sure you plan an action date.
 
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