"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ongoing Saga with this woman

newyorkman

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I need a bit of advice. I met this woman about 4 months ago. We will call her Sally. Played the challenge role to a tee and she ended up asking me out. We went a couple times and I was such a challenge so she gave up. We kept in contact as 'friends' and she did admit she had a romantic interest in me. We started hanging out again in a group. One night a bunch of us were out at a housewarming party and I ran into a female friend of mine that she also knew. I chatted this friend up to the point where Sally ended up being a little on the jealous side. Over the last couple weeks I have noticed her gazing at me and trying to get a bit closer again. She actually asked me about this female friend twice. Once after it happened and about three weeks later. She wanted to know if I asked her out.

My question is this..how should I play this? Assume she is interested due to her jealousy factor or test the waters slowly?

Any Advice from you experts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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##17

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newyorkman said:
I need a bit of advice. I met this woman about 4 months ago. We will call her Sally. Played the challenge role to a tee and she ended up asking me out. We went a couple times and I was such a challenge so she gave up. We kept in contact as 'friends' and she did admit she had a romantic interest in me. We started hanging out again in a group. One night a bunch of us were out at a housewarming party and I ran into a female friend of mine that she also knew. I chatted this friend up to the point where Sally ended up being a little on the jealous side. Over the last couple weeks I have noticed her gazing at me and trying to get a bit closer again. She actually asked me about this female friend twice. Once after it happened and about three weeks later. She wanted to know if I asked her out.

My question is this..how should I play this? Assume she is interested due to her jealousy factor or test the waters slowly?

Any Advice from you experts?
Yes. Stop playing coy (like a woman).

But we still need more information. What do you want with Sally?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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newyorkman said:
... We went a couple times and I was such a challenge so she gave up.
:crackup:
Sorry...
newyorkman said:
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My question is this..how should I play this? Assume she is interested due to her jealousy factor or test the waters slowly?
Have to ask, are you even interested in this woman now?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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then way don't you? Stop overdoing the whole challenge thing and sticking to rules. It is ok to test her, but you're gonna end up blowing it with girls who initially had high interest. It has happened to me several times in the last few years. I was so in control and kept breaking them down that they lost interest.

Seems like if you hurry, you can still get her to agree on anything you want.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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yeah I am looking to date Sally. Nothing too exclusive though.
Then just tell her when you're going to do something and tell her that she'd have a good time if she came along.
 

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The definition of "challenge" when it comes to gaming women isn't to avoid them, but to make them see that you're valuable to other women. Letting women know that other women desire you will fuel their curiosity about you. When that happens, they start thinking about you more. When they start thinking about you more, they start wanting you more. Then they'll get defensive when another woman is interested in you. You'll be surprised at what she'll call other women who show an interest in you, even if the other women only show it with their body language.

Never verbally give away what your status is with other women. In fact, over-exaggerate it. Tell her you're dating this other women, her two sisters, her mom, and her aunt Shelley. Let her know that you're interested with your actions. (Note: actions does NOT mean buying 5hit for her). Use Kino and be playful with her. Act like you're both children, and she's your best friend.

Take Sally out for a date. Hell, take her on a few dates and have fun with her. The best things you can do on a date is use kino and have fun, so make sure you plan an action date.
 
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